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Not Perfect single parent!

User Profile: shiningCloud47
shiningCloud47 January 27th

I will be honest. I love posts of messy home, not Perfect meals or moms lying on sofa. Children take a lot of energy especially when you are present in there life.

its normal feeling overwhelmed, because Its can be tough, not only because responsibility, list of things you do but also the moments you are happy, proud, see new skills. It’s hard not able to share with children dad, keep it to yourself.


Are you single mom or dad I’m here to support you. I know your struggles, hurt. I have gone and go through that.


let support each other in 7 Cups!

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User Profile: Clio9876
Clio9876 January 28th

@shiningCloud47

Yes! Great idea for single mums to support each other here!

I'm not a single mum. But I can totally appreciate how daunting all that responsibility for one person is. And how it can get overwhelming and exhausting at times.

I think you have your priorities right. Being there for your child/children is more important than a show room house. Being there for yourself is more important than a show room house. When every day is a long list of chores looking after someone else, a little time for a little support for yourself is invaluable.

Give your little one a cuddle from me. And congratulate yourself for all the things you did today.

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User Profile: shiningCloud47
shiningCloud47 OP January 29th

So, nice messages thanks, definitely will give a little cuddle from you ð«¶

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User Profile: ImpudentIncognito
ImpudentIncognito January 28th

Thanks for making this post Cloud.

Its definitely not easy parenting solo.

I went from being a single parent to a solo parent. I am no longer single, but I am still parenting alone, as my current partner is long distance, but helps whenever he visits. The other parent of my son is not in the picture at all, so no co-parenting. He almost made me unalive, so I have a restraining order. He refused to be there for his son unless I get back into a relationship with him, but I'll never go back.

He also does not pay child support and his family are also violent alcoholics like him, so I keep my son away from the paternal side of thr family.

My family isn't great either, due to physically & verbally abusing me, and I have no friends.

I do everything by myself with no help (other than when I'm forced to apply for government assistance, I dont have a good paying job anymore).

Whenever my son gets sick, I have to call of work often, which resulted in me either losing the job or having to leave the job. Im currently having medical issues, and it took FOREVER to get the docs to finally agree to do x-rays and look into it further.

I requested an MRI and CT scans due to what my ex-fiancé (son's father) did to me a few years ago as well as a car accident that occured many more years prior while crossing the crosswalk, back when I couldn't afford to go to the hospital.

I've been through unemployment, loss of my car, many near death experiences, starvation, eviction,  homelessness, people stalking me, and worst of all — losing temporary custody of my son after calling the cops on my ex for nearly ending me... 

It's been a tough couple of years...

I never thought I would be a parent to be honest. I didn't want to be due to medical issues that ran in the family and my upbringing wasn't the best, already had depression and PTSD... My ex fiance told me he KNEW he got me pregnant and removed protection while (at the time) we were both drinking and I got extremely drunk. He baby-trapped me and made my life *** for the years we were together. Thought it was love, he was my first everything, and I was used to being abused in my old household...


Now? I'm trying to get therapy (there's a LONG waitlist) and I've been going to the hospital for my health issues. I no longer drink alcohol nor do I smoke/consume MJ. Attempting to also remove caffeine from my life.


Furthermore, I have son in daycare and speech therapy and work with his reading skills (he began reading at the age of 3) and he is multilingual, learning my native tongue as well as English and sign language. I've gone to many sessions of DV support groups to recover and FINALLY have a loving partner who understands me and treats me well. I'm working towards my real estate license while he is getting his CDL license. We're actually planning on having kids, but holding off until we are financial stable and have a house together. Just both have some things going on in our personal lives (he's dealing with family, and I'm dealing with a multitude of other things, but my partner still helps me, he's very sweet... I feel bad I cant be helpful yet until I get my real estate license and make better money currently cant work)

Despite this, I am still depressed and often don't feel great due to the chronic pain, but manage with pain relievers... still have to tie up lose ends. I plan on moving out of this city, and hopefully state soon. I dont really feel at home in this country at all, but neither in my mother's country... I've travelled a lot in my youth and feel like a perpetual nomad.

I am hoping things change though this time, as I'll be with my partner and son, away from the city where I have a lot of trauma and have gradually gained agoraphobia...


Apologies for the long ramble, just needed to vent a bit.

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User Profile: shiningCloud47
shiningCloud47 OP January 29th

Oh, thank you for your massage! You have faced so my challenges, unfair situations in life. You have been in lowest point and stand up and go forward. You are example of how to not give in and fight, fight for what is right. It’s so great you can raise your son despite of past and you do the therapy . It’s a great example to as, and to your son. I gave work in special school with kids with hearing difficulties and speaking sign language. It’s so big challange but you parents learn it and i admire you for that. BlessingS to you! Thanks for being here, being real and sharing with us your greatest challenges!!!!

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User Profile: sereneCupcake7454
sereneCupcake7454 January 29th

I am indeed, I’m a single mother of an autistic boy. It’s incredibly isolating. And I’m forever thinking I could do better. But I do try.

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User Profile: shiningCloud47
shiningCloud47 OP January 29th

thanks for sharing this to me. That’s double challenge . You are strong, keep it up! I hope little boy is good and you getting governmental support! Blessings and have nice day!

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User Profile: helpfulKiwi4855
helpfulKiwi4855 January 29th

Yes, it's really tiring being a parent. I am single parenting as my partner have to stay in another place due to work.  Love ethe thread. Hope we will talk again 

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User Profile: shiningCloud47
shiningCloud47 OP January 29th

Yes, messages me when ever you feel it and need it, I’m around here :) just to say you doing great! I know I was in that point when distance relationship and you don’t get the support daily you need, or support when you need. It’s disappointing , hard and challenging.

sending my best wishes to you today!

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User Profile: courteousKiwi3796
courteousKiwi3796 January 29th

@shiningCloud47

Strongly agree

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User Profile: shiningCloud47
shiningCloud47 OP January 29th

Thanks 🙏 ❤️

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