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Love life in long partnerships

Dossema August 1st

Hey folks!

I hope you are doing well and enjoying your life!

We sometimes form long relationships and we love our partners to the bottom of our heart. Still.. The love life becomes a bit.. dull. No more experiments. Same bodies, same routine, same touch, almost no kisses or playing beforehand.

Tell me your secrets - how do you keep the love life magic alive too?

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toughTiger6481 August 1st

@Dossema

I think what you describe is common and many will think of "spicing it up"   the reality IMO is that puts pressure that this must improve things and that pressure does not help.

Instead we might need to be honest about changes we have in that area ...if the routine is not working anymore.  what are both doing to maintain their appearance or appreciation of each other.  

Let go of the other things in a relationship............ like resentment over they did not help with chores or take the garbage out etc.  forgot to take care of an errand etc.

Having time not "well lets go cause i have this and this and this to do i can give you x amount of time." this makes it a chore not spontaneous.  Imagine early in a relationship if that attitude was there it would end it. 

 


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Dossema OP August 1st

Hm.. You are so right about that pressure 🤔 I didn't think about it. It could be so hard to find that playfulness, curiosity, enthusiasm so many years later..


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jacek73 November 16th

@Dossema

In my own personal opinion no kisses, no hugs, no gentle touch before AND AFTER is a deadly sin.

It was described in quite a funny way during the conversation at the female table in a Michelle Pfeiffer / Bruce Willis "Story of Us" romantic movie. Something like having a close encounter with someone is like "Yes... Yes... Of course, I do love you..." while a kiss is "I love you! 😊".