Hermit here
Hey y'all,
It's quite difficult to find listeners around my age or who can really relate to what I'm going through. At this age... I'm pretty down.
There are little things during the day that make me smile, but even more so, an enormous pile of discontent is weighing me down.
As most cheesy songs go "The loneliness is killing meeeeee"
But my bag of chippies keeps me going.
@Daylily1
I live alone as well and have done so for a long time, I think I know where you are coming from. For me I'm just terribly bored and that feeds into everything else
@determinedShip1191 Thanks for sharing! I'm more so just stuck in my room, and reluctant to leave. I think for me its more so to do with some form of anxiety, & overthinking about a lot of things in life.
Have you found something that you enjoy doing? Or that makes you feel less bored?
@Daylily1
I spend most of my time in my bedroom as well, I have the same problems with anxiety and overthinking. Lately I've been thinking about camping to just get outside and away from everything else. I've found I get no joy in anything lately, so want to try something external to my house. Doesn't help I have no friends where I live and have lived for some years now.
@determinedShip1191 we may be in a similar boat. But camping kinda sounds nice! Do you have an ideal environment for the campsite? I guess the one thing I can't stand is insects D: but the fresh air is probably refreshing.
Would you like fish, hike, BBQ during the camp?
@Daylily1 At the moment I'm slowly buying some of the gear I'll need, but I'll be pretty happy in most environments. I'm going to avoid rain and heat where I can. I think BBQ is a must, and I plan to do some hiking and perhaps get into fishing. I want to see the National parks near me and camp there.
Hello there,
Is the discontent solely from being alone? Just trying to get a full picture of what is bringing you down. Hope to help!
Take care
@pioneeringSail3900 Thanks for reaching out! Hmmm... I think it's a little bit of everything, the thought of being alone and people reluctant to reach out to me makes me realize that there is something people don't like about me. And faking that I'm happy is not easy and I fail at it. So my downer persona just seeps into most conversations and I become more discontent with the idea that I just bother most people. I used to reach out to a few people but I noticed that they preferred to avoid me, so I am stopping to try to reach out anymore... Not sure if that made sense!
@Daylily1
I've done and do the same, seems like we are quite alike
My thoughts....solitude is great for reflection and when you're lost. Beyond that, it is emptiness. Humans were meant to be around other humans. Push yourself to seek new relationships...no matter how small. Be the farmer planting as many relationship seeds as possible. Not all will grow but have faith in the numbers. Simultaneously, work on yourself to expand all that you could potentially offer those you might be around. The more you learn about the world and everything in it the better. Care about your fellow man and with patience and perseverance, they will care about you.
I'm really struggling with loneliness and sadness. I'm 36, not in a relationship and it feels like after covid all my friends have forgotten I exist. A lot of them have gotten into relationships, and they've started hanging out in smaller groups, with other couples.
I miss them but I'm also mad. They've always been busy and kinda strange, with people who were closer friends than others, and this is not the first time I've felt that it was difficult to fit in but in 2019 I had come to a point where we were hanging out regularly, I had people I could talk to if I was struggling, and I felt included when we were going out.
These past years we've met three times, and it isn't like I haven't reached out. Everytime they say I'm the one who's not going out as much as before and that they'd like to meet more, they ask me what I've been up to, suggest I call them to hang out. And when I do, they don't answer my texts.
I live in a small community. I've just bought a house and the relationship I had with them was important to me because of all the people I've met in my life over the years they were the ones I liked hanging out with the most.
Now I feel that I have to stop trying to keep my sanity and not feel worthless, but I don't really have other people I want to hang out with. It feels hopeless.
@sensitiveLychee8418
I can relate, my advice would be to express how you feel to your friends and then to seek a new community, find new friends.
It worked for me.