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Daylily1
7,423 M Moving Along 6
PathStep 6 Compassion hearts204 Forum posts20 Forum upvotes28 Current upvotes28 Age GroupAdult Last activeMay, 2024 Member sinceOctober 13, 2019
Bio
I'm working on myself. I am again in this space to want to. I really don't want to go back, not now... I want a life that I believe I can reach. I can do this... I will heal and grow as the person I need to be. I just have days where it gets tough. I want to get out of this habit of despair. Nowadays I am trying to read page a day, watching crash course vids, trying to be patient with myself.
Recent forum posts
BED not being taken seriously...
Eating Disorder Support / by Daylily1
Last post
 March 20th, 2022
...See more I just am so sad at how the discussion around BE seems to not be seen as an actual issue to quite a lot of people, or seen as a "choice" when you simply just stop eating... Not sure how you guys with BED deal with that kinda stigma...
Binge Eating
Eating Disorder Support / by Daylily1
Last post
 March 10th, 2022
...See more So I have found myself in a loop of binge eating and its getting worse. I am feeling quite alone since I can't confide in even my friends who keep making a joke out of it. It's tough to even try explain how this is a form of addiction and that I am struggling with it. I'm wondering if there are others going through this rn...
Hermit here
35 & Over Community / by Daylily1
Last post
 January 11th, 2022
...See more Hey y'all, It's quite difficult to find listeners around my age or who can really relate to what I'm going through. At this age... I'm pretty down. There are little things during the day that make me smile, but even more so, an enormous pile of discontent is weighing me down. As most cheesy songs go "The loneliness is killing meeeeee" But my bag of chippies keeps me going.
The word "help" before listening
Newbie Hub / by Daylily1
Last post
 October 21st, 2019
...See more As a newbie, I find it strange how some listeners instantly ask you "how may I help you?". I'm not calling customer services here. Yes having someone to reply back to you when you know alot of others would prefer to avoid talking to you because you are bringing up a dark topic ia comforting in itself. However, for some reason, the idea to "help" has this expectation that you believe you can make an individuals life easier from them talking to you. Like a set in stone assumption that after they talk to you, they will be better off or that you can "solve" their situation. This of course isn't always the case. Some who "offer their help" can sometimes make the individual feel worse off. So starting off with a "matter of fact" attitude, I feel, leaves a person "expecting" help and becoming more frustrated when not receiving what they want as this form of aid. Going through severe depression or anxiety, I don't expect a listener to fix my problem. And I'm sure the rules applied for listeners is not to have the answer but "listen". Perhaps it's just me, but if listeners are encouraged to be careful with the choices in word. Id prefer if the listener would not immediately assume you can help someone when perhaps all you can really do is just listen to them. So from my experience, listening may be helping, or it may not depending on the person.
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