@NessBess22
I think there is a lot of
societal pressure when it comes to what age we are supposed to get married by.
But, there is no timeline and everyone is on their own journey. Some people
find a partner early in love, while others take more time. :)💜
I can relate to this
@NessBess22 I feel like the older you are, the harder it is to find someone who doesn't have too much extra "baggage" from previous relationships. Forming new relationships is often a challenge for many of us! I am so glad that you haven't given up yet.
That's my fear as well. I'm 37 but my kids are 17 and 16 (they graduate in '24 and '25) then I plan to get back in the pool of love. I'm sure it'll be polluted with baggage and horn dogs. I fear the future
@NessBess22
I didn't get married until I was 49.
I just thought that it was something I would never do.
As other people have said, there is enormous pressure on people to get married and have kids.
For me, when I met my wife, I was just very lucky. She literally fell right into my lap and she is the most perfect person I could ever meet.
And modern day dating with apps etc... This seems very strange to me.
I never did it.
If I were single and I wanted to meet people, I would avoid doing this online. I would try to meet people in the real world.
And we should not put expectations on ourselves about when we should be married or whether we have children or not.
Life is not a map carved in rock. It is in a constant state of flux.
I'm 36, and have dated only once so far. I lose hope as years pass by.
@NessBess22
@NessBess22
So choose carefully
Don't put so much pressure on marriage. Been married for almost a decade to a partner that has done nothing but break me. The narcissistic abuse is not easy to describe to another person who has never experienced it. Most people would just say, why didn't you just leave. Stay strong in your convictions and don't compromise yourself or what you know are important to you in a genuine partner. Never ignore your gut, or excuse red flags.It is always better to be alone than abused. Good luck, and I hope you find what you are looking for.
@NessBess22 dating is indeed difficult.... But you know single life is also wonderful. It may be lonely but remember something that you are not alone
It will get easier in retirement!