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39 and never married

NessBess22 March 26th, 2023

Dating is not getting easier.

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innateJoy9602 March 26th, 2023

@NessBess22

I think there is a lot of societal pressure when it comes to what age we are supposed to get married by. But, there is no timeline and everyone is on their own journey. Some people find a partner early in love, while others take more time. :)💜

naturalFriend1990 March 29th, 2023

I can relate to this

purplelady568 March 29th, 2023

@NessBess22 I feel like the older you are, the harder it is to find someone who doesn't have too much extra "baggage" from previous relationships. Forming new relationships is often a challenge for many of us! I am so glad that you haven't given up yet.

secretTortoise207 March 29th, 2023

That's my fear as well. I'm 37 but my kids are 17 and 16 (they graduate in '24 and '25) then I plan to get back in the pool of love. I'm sure it'll be polluted with baggage and horn dogs. I fear the future

gregariousBunny4035 April 1st, 2023

@NessBess22

I didn't get married until I was 49.

I just thought that it was something I would never do.

As other people have said, there is enormous pressure on people to get married and have kids.

For me, when I met my wife, I was just very lucky. She literally fell right into my lap and she is the most perfect person I could ever meet.

And modern day dating with apps etc... This seems very strange to me.

I never did it.

If I were single and I wanted to meet people, I would avoid doing this online. I would try to meet people in the real world.

And we should not put expectations on ourselves about when we should be married or whether we have children or not.

Life is not a map carved in rock. It is in a constant state of flux.

Jaeteuk April 2nd, 2023

I'm 36, and have dated only once so far. I lose hope as years pass by.

@NessBess22

robs824 April 25th, 2023

@NessBess22

So choose carefully

Lives4mydogs April 25th, 2023

Don't put so much pressure on marriage. Been married for almost a decade to a partner that has done nothing but break me. The narcissistic abuse is not easy to describe to another person who has never experienced it. Most people would just say, why didn't you just leave. Stay strong in your convictions and don't compromise yourself or what you know are important to you in a genuine partner. Never ignore your gut, or excuse red flags.It is always better to be alone than abused. Good luck, and I hope you find what you are looking for.

AlwaysStrugglingWithLife April 25th, 2023

@NessBess22 dating is indeed difficult.... But you know single life is also wonderful. It may be lonely but remember something that you are not alone

Confusion60 April 26th, 2023

It will get easier in retirement!