“You’re so strong.”
I’m tired of being told how strong, resilient, and un breakable I am. I’m exhausted. I don’t want to be strong. I want to melt into the arms of someone deeply concerned for my well being. I want to be checked on. I want someone to call me and say “hey, are you okay, why have you been radio silent?” I’ve been conditioned from a young age to never ask for help, so much that the very thought of doing so paralyses me with fear.
@Luciddreamsicle awww honey I'm so sorry😥 asking for help is never easy, but I can only imagine how hard it is for you🙁 sits beside you and hugs you tightly ❤ I hope you find comfort here at cups🙂 ❤
Thank you 🫂
@Luciddreamsicle if you could ask someone/anyone for help right now. What would you say?
@Luciddreamsicle I'm so sorry that you were not allowed to be vulnerable, not allowed to ask for yourself the help that you deserved. It must have been so hard to have to do it all on your own.
Strength can be amazing to have but it also is like building high walls around yourself and now you have to learn to take them down and allow someone in. It's okay to be scared, it's okay if it takes a long time to learn to ask for help but just how you taught yourself to be strong on your own, you can also learn to trust someone and have them help you<3
Ofc that’s not fair!
I get what u feel:(
ppl seeing u as strong or they don’t seem to giving u enough care cuz they always see u holding up without complaints or when I say I have knowledge or know what to do but I’m still human so it gets hard ofc it does!
pain doesn’t make you stronger,
wisdom does.
@Luciddreamsicle I understand how you feel. Especially being conditioned to think a certain way it is scary to break out of that. But you sending this message is the first step for change. You realize you want to ask for help and you deserve it. Even doing this post you did actually ask for help. If you are not comfortable doing it face to face with peers and friends maybe hopping in the chat with a listener could help benefit you. You are not alone and you don't have to feel like you are.
I totally understand you. The same thing happens to me because I was forced to do various activities in my childhood beyond my "limits". Now I'm literally facing pain because I can't say that I'm overworked and I need peace.
@Luciddreamsicle I hear you, and I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Being told you’re strong all the time can feel like people are overlooking how much you’re actually struggling. Strength doesn’t mean you don’t need care or support. I’s okay to want someone to notice and just be there for you without having to ask.
That conditioning to never ask for help? It’s so hard to unlearn, but you’re not alone in feeling that way. Just know it doesn’t make you weak to want connection or to be cared for it makes you human. You deserve that support and compassion, even if it feels impossible to ask for right now.
Also, if you’re looking for something that might help you process those feelings, I wrote an e-book called The Silence. It’s about dealing with fear, anxiety, and finding your strength, even in moments like this. It’s a guide that might give you some tools or perspectives to start small steps toward healing. If it resonates with you, here’s the link: The Silence. You’re not alone in this.
