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Hi! I'm glad you've found me on 7cupsoftea! I'm not only a trained listener, but a person who wants to help you as others have helped me:) I like to support people who have stress of any kind or problems in daily life.

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Abuse Awareness
Trauma Support / by radiantGrace89
Last post
 October 30th, 2018
...See more Abuse Awareness -radiantgrace89 INTRO In relationships people typically feel passionate love, companionate love, and unfortunately when abuse is at play, fear. An abusive relationship, oftenly unexpected/unforeseen, is a relationship which stems from the desire in one partner to gain or maintain control over the other. While abuse comes in many forms, all abuse leaves the victim in an emotionally or physically hazardous situation. EMOTIONAL VS. PHYSICAL ABUSE While physical abuse: the use of physical violence to endanger another person is a common culprit in abusive relationships, its counterpart emotional abuse: the use of yelling, name calling, blaming, and more does just the same damage, maybe even more. Emotional abuse, designed to chip down at the victims self worth makes them feel awful about themself. Emotional abuse in intimate relationships also may lead to the feeling of entrapment due to the false idea of being nothing without their partner. In tearing down their partners self esteem and worth, emotional abusers work to make their victim feel unwanted, because if this becomes apparent they are less likely to leave. In society emotional abuse is often overlooked. Even in relationships where abuse occurs, victims fail to recognize the abuse, because there is no physical proof. Something that connect emotional and physical abuse in domestic violence however are the emotional consequences; depression, low self-worth/esteem, feeling emotionally numb, and more. THE CYCLE OF ABUSE While all abusive relationships vary, the average predictable behavior of most abusers is known as the Cycle of Abuse. The Cycle of Abuse starts off with the tension building stage. In this stage, the abuser typically searches for the victims faults, in order to create tension in the relationship. Usually in this stage the victim will try to control the behavior of the abuser, however this tension is like a ball on ice, unstoppable, leading to phase two- the incident. The incident can be verbal, physical, or emotional abuse. The incident is usually so great it leads into the third phase- reconciliation. In the reconciliation phase, the abuser almost feels a sense of guilt, and because of this they typically deny the abuse occurred, or convince the victim theyre overreacting. The last phase of the Cycle of Abuse before it repeats, is the calm phase, also known as the honeymoon phase. In the honeymoon phase, the abuse is forgotten, and things seem to go back to normal. This phase is the most heart wrenching phases for victims typically, because the person they know, is kind, and their relationship appears as if its back to normal. HOW TO TELL IF A FRIEND IS EXPERIENCING ABUSE People who are being abused might… Agree/go along with what their partners says Constantly check in with their partner Talk about their partner's jealousy or possessiveness Have frequent injuries they blame on accidents or wear clothes to hide these marks ( long sleeves in the summer) Have a lower self esteem Show personality changes. An extrovert might become withdrawn, exhibit depression and/or anxiety. Abuse is not the victim's fault. While commonly thought, abuse is simply the abusers loss of control or moment of weakness, this is a justification. Abuse is a choice- instituted by the abuser in their attempt to control the victim. While dealing with an abusive relationship on the outside seems easy, being in the position of the victim one will find easy is an understatement. Whether that be a child and their parent or an intimate relationship wanting to restore in the opposite person the part they once loved. DISCUSSION! The National Domestic Violence Hotline (200+ languages, Canada/Mexico/US) 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) www.ndvh.org [http://www.ndvh.org/] National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-4673 https://www.rainn.org Sources: Avanduyn. Cycle of Abuse. Wikimedia Commons, Media Wiki, 10 Apr. 2009, commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Cycle_of_Abuse.png. Smith, Melinda, and Jeanne Segal. Domestic Violence and Abuse: Recognizing the Signs of an Abusive Relationship and Getting Help. Depression in Older Adults: Recognizing the Signs of Elderly Depression and Getting Treatment, Helpguide,Org, www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm [http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm]. Why Do People Abuse? The National Domestic Violence Hotline, The National Domestic Violence Hotline, www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/why-do-people-abuse/ [http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/why-do-people-abuse/]. Why Do People Stay in Abusive Relationships? - The Hotline. The National Domestic Violence Hotline, The National Domestic Violence Hotline, www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/why-do-people-stay-in-abusive-relationships/ [http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/why-do-people-stay-in-abusive-relationships/]. What is the difference between emotional and physical abuse? What are some signs a friend might be domestically abused/in an abusive relationship? What should and/or would you do if you were in an abusive relationship?
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Newbie Hub / by radiantGrace89
Last post
 July 16th, 2018
...See more If you're new to 7 Cups welcome! Write something to introduce yourself to the community! Who are you? How did you find 7 Cups? What are your hobbies? I can't wait to see you on the site!
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