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1.) I'm not a professional. Therefore, if that is what you need, please seek professional help from somebody else.
2.) You do the healing, I'm merely here to support you while you do.
3.) I'll treat you like a human being, because you deserve to be treated that way. You deserve respect, which doesn't mean I will be submissive to you, neither does it mean that you will be superior to me. But it does mean I will listen, I will not ignore you, I'll be here for you to the best of my abilities, and I will not judge you. After all, I am a human. It is not my place to judge or treat anybody like trash regardless of your life decisions.
4.) I probably won't be around all the time but I'll try to be. However, if I am offline please simply leave me a message and we can work out a time together.

日本語でも大丈夫ですよ。すこしでも「気持ちが不安だな」とか「だれか話し聞いてくれないかな」と思ったら気軽にメッセージしてください。24時間中オンラインというわけにもいかないので、オフラインの時にメッセージを送ってきた場合は後からまた改めて連絡します。

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Bad memories that make me lose confidence
Depression Support / by AntidoteTowardsTheDark
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June 27th, 2017
...See more Sorry, I know I post too many sad posts on this website. I'm just a generally sad person. There was a rude bus driver that said mean things to me for no reason, because at the time I was carrying a suit case with some of my luggage (as I was moving from my dorm to my apartment). He would yell, "Hurry the fuck up bitch!" Now I usually ignore these comments but...lately I've been wanting to be stronger. I felt like....every time I don't fight back I am weak. Which is weird. I used to think that staying silent and ignoring them was the smart and strong thing to do. Like, you don't engage a monkey if it's acting like one, because you are a human. But for some reason I couldn't let it go. And guess what came out of my mouth. A silent croak, me struggling to speak up to say "Shut up" but the only thing that came out was "Sh...rk....." That is THE saddest shit I have ever experienced and I am so ashamed. I want to kill myself. Like honestly if I were to argue with this guy, why couldn't I speak the fuck up? And it wasn't like this guy is that much smarter than me, that's why he's middle aged, balding, and still a bus driver, while I've graduated from a prestigious college. But no, I wasn't confident. It probably didn't help that I wasn't too familiar with the local language where this happened. Even though I should be, really. Because half of my family is from that country and I can sort of speak their language. ----- There was a guy in a shopping mall. We were both walking but in a way that, if we kept walking we would've bumped into each other. He was walking from my right, and I wanted to walk straight across. And he decided to not walk behind me, but instead in front of me. I felt so disrespected. Why didn't I say anything? Why does this even bother me? Who even gives a shit? --------------- There was a guy at the pet store. I was looking around. I felt like his vibes were kinda weird, but I didn't want to be so "weak" as to not be able to choose where I look at just because some guy has weird vibes. What I wanted to check out happened to be in the same aisle where he was at. And guess what happened? As soon as I stand near the pet collars that I wanted to look at, he starts walking towards me with these....offensive? big, challenging eyes, just staring down at me in a threatning way, as if he wanted a fight. I was wearing a big leather jacket and had my hair dyed so, since I'm a Japanese living in Japan, from the Japanese perspective I honestly looked somewhat intimidating at the time (even though I'm not, I'm the nicest person on earth, no joke. I'm a little too nice actually and that's one thing I hate about myself). So once I sensed him walking towards me, I turned around and looked at his face (because I didn't want him shoulder checking me or whatever, that would piss me off even more). He flinched when I looked into his face, but he didn't stop walking. I didn't want no fight so I walked away. But you know, I honestly felt like a pussy. I wish I could've just beat him the fuck up. But I didn't. (Yet if I knew he had weird vibes, why didn't I just avoid him? Doesn't it say that he's crazy in some way? I couldn't allow myself to be a pussy. Why can't I allow myself to be a pussy? I don't know. I just know that I'd hate it and I'd want to murder myself for being weak) --------- Conclusion: I just really hate my pussy ass self, I'm not kidding. I loose sleep over this garbage and I can't tell anybody cause nobody empathizes with my feelings. I'm abnormal. Nobody even wants to comfort me, and it's not even realistic to ask anybody to comfort me. Why should I even make friends? Why do I even write here? Who's going to help me feel better? Why should I ask for help when others want help too? Everytime I ask for advice people tell me, "Why don't you say something? Why don't you do something?" Bitch I tried! Look at what happened in the end! So are you going to label me as weak now? What are you going to tell me now? I hate this world that I was born into. There is no winning.
Blocking member on forum?
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by AntidoteTowardsTheDark
Last post
May 9th, 2017
...See more Is it possible to block somebody to prevent them from posting on any of your forum posts? There is this member that replies to some of my posts and, although I appreciate their support, they are often not good at being empathetic. Therefore I am left with replies that seem insensitive, which worsen my feelings. I vented last night about my agoraphobia and this person trivialised my pain and told me I can "overcome my pain" (kind of like when people tell those with depression to "cheer up"). There was another time I vented about my agoraphobia and the same person told me to "grow up". Once or twice I can forgive, but this has been the third time this person wrote to me. They probably do not know that they have written to me this many times, because I tend to alternate posting in between my listener and member account. Regardless, I'd be in a emotionally better state knowing I never have to read this person's replies ever again. Anyways, if any solution can be suggested, it will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Social Anxiety, Agoraphobia, Confession
Anxiety Support / by AntidoteTowardsTheDark
Last post
May 11th, 2017
...See more Hello, I have agoraphobia due to social anxiety. I developed this condition from the long commute (4~5 hours two way) I had to endure for years when I used to go to college. As I live in Japan and my university was in Tokyo, I had to traverse Tokyo every time I had class. Tokyo is an extremely populated area and I am sure it's easy to understand how I developed agoraphobia. Recently it has been a little better. I haven't healed quite completely yet. I have managed to finish university (big relief), but I still have issues going outside. Whenever I have something to do, I stall. Going to get groceries? Stall for hours sitting in front of the computer because I'm scared. Going to church? Forget it don't go, God won't send me to hell just because I didn't go to church. I have a confession to make. Even though my agoraphobia comes from how much I hate negative interactions I have with people (often people on trains are obnoxious, especially older men who like to go violent on younger girls. I've delt with people pushing me, getting angry at me, and even sexual harassment), lately I realised I am obnoxious as well. Especially when I see middle aged or older men. I hate them. I have to admit I hate them like a fat kid hates diets. I try my best to avoid them like the black plague. And I am extremely impatient with them. Do I know that not all men are bad? Ofcourse! I was raised by my father, who I would never call a bad man. I have a few decent male friends, they would never be considered bad in my books. Yet when it comes to strangers I have zero patience. Honestly I hate all strangers. I want them to fuck off because they seem to be so...absentminded when they walk. Or some of them are so adamant about not moving out of the way like some 5 year old monkey. I only meet one or two civilized human beings out of...1 billion. But lately I realised I am subconciously less generous to men. Like today, some old man came out of an aisle and turned towards me. He wanted to pass by me and I did not want to move out of the way because this guy didn't look like he wanted to accomodate me. Like he wanted me to move first. And I silently thought, "Bitch I am holding two big ass bags along with my plastic basket, get the hell outa my way!" He didn't even flinch or show any movement to show he wanted to let me pass. If I had seen him try, I would've tried too. If he would've said excuse me, I definitely would've moved. So I stood there, pretended to let him pass by moving my arm like...1 cm. Which is totally not enough for him to go through but whatever I hate this guy. So then he starts slowly inching along, at which point I start sighing angrily, slowly. Then as he is about to finish inching, I tut loudly with my tongue and quickly moved towards the aisle he came out of, which was the aisle I needed to get into. In my head I just thought, "I bet this guy bullies other younger girls too, just cause he thinks they're all weak. He's a piece of garbage. I don't need to be nice to this little shit." Later on as I finished paying for my stuff, I saw the same old man. He was with his old wife and young grandson. They looked quite happy. And I wondered, "Gosh why was I so mean to this man? Maybe he isn't a bully? Maybe I could've let him pass? He doesn't really look like a bully now. He looks like a nice old grandpa." I do this quite often. I'm definitely not proud of myself. Don't lecture me cause I know it's wrong. If you need to say something to me, I need emotional comfort. If somebody does have agoraphobia from social anxiety, or they met some rude person, maybe just think about how that person probably has the same issue and hates other people too. And that it's not your fault they treated you like garbage. On behalf of some of the rude people you've met (not all, cause I'm sure some really are scumbag bullies), I am sorry.
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