My manager is very impatient and often criticises me. I cant take criticism well and have a low threshold of stress. What can I do to get stronger (to cope) on my own and without changing her at all?

Managers want their employees to perform their best. The criticism may or not be accurate. It sounds like it is not being communicated in a constructive manner. Try to think that their criticism isn't necessarily about you. You're just the person in front of them when they are upset. If you can keep your cool, you're already doing better than they are. Pay attention to all the times you do handle stress well, not just the times you don't. I think you will find that you are handling a lot of stress quite well. Maybe you can find a pattern of how you do manage stress well. It's important to give yourself the care you need to be able to perform well.

i think instead of focusing on everything you are doing wrong, focus on some things that you are doing really well. it doesn't have to be something really big, it could just be like "i did this task well", or "i am respectful to everyone". i think that if you focus on what you are doing well, then you can also focus on what you could improve at. if your manager is really getting frusturated and you feel like you can't cope, have an open discussion with her, or maybe even consider switching jobs. your workplace should be a safe enviornment for you, physically and emotionally.

By understanding that we cannot control another’s behavior or how the other person may be feeling. It helps to realize and understand that we CAN control how we perceive a situation or how we react to any situation. So be mindful, do your best to communicate in a professional and assertive way that expresses how you do not intend to disappoint him or her but that you take specific actions to achieve desired results. Ask questions when you are given directions or assigned a project/task. Be sure you clearly understand what their expectations are. And do your best work. But keep in mind, some people are just that way. You cannot please everyone 100% of the time. Don’t take it personal when they may just be having a hard day.

The first thing would be to accept that we are all in some manner under stress and realize the manager in question could also in a sense discard some of her stress onto you (being home or work related), not everyone is so in tune with their emotions as you are, so the first thing is to forgive her for maybe not taking the best of approaches, the second is to forgive oneself, you may be rightfully criticized but I'm sure it's not every time rightfully accurate and these things can also be discussed over a cup of coffee or tea

It is honorable of you to want to improve yourself. I commend you for wanting tools to improve your performance and coping mechanisms. My suggestions would certainly be to meditate and do breathing exercises, by starting with quieting the mind for a few minutes each day, you will be less reactive to her, and stimuli, and more responsive (better able to choose your words and approach when the criticism arises) and the breath training or work will raise your stress threshold. By starting there, the cognitive next steps are easier to manage or succeed at. I would suggest that once you have spent a few weeks do the meditations and breath work, moving on to having thoughtful discussions when she approaches you with criticism. Through your inner work, you will be able to ask her more about what she is presenting in the criticism, or in her tone. Through the questions and dialogue, you will likely begin to see the criticism either differently or with a different understanding that you might have previously.

Practice labeling your emotions. Putting a name to your feelings decreases their intensity. So whether you're feeling sad, anxious, angry, or scared, acknowledge it--at least to yourself. Also, pay attention to the way those emotions can affect your choices. When you're feeling anxious you may be less inclined to take risks. When you're excited you may be more impulsive. Increasing your awareness of your emotions can decrease the chances that you'll make irrational decisions based on emotions only.

To cope with such situations it is better to look at things or areas at which you are criticised(the most to least), Criticism always comes either from not accepting the way how you work or any other reason. Changing things according to her may help her to understand that you are trying to work according to her. Even talking to her or trying to communicate with her how you feel may also help. I understand that it could be difficult, but you are a personnel under her and a human at the same time. I hope this helps you.

Criticism hurts when you believe it. The key is to find a stable sense of self-worth - things you like about yourself, or even just recognizing that no matter what people say, you have unlimited potential. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you more. Also recognize that some people have idealistic expectations of you, when in fact everyone is imperfect and learning to perform well at a job takes time. I actually kind of feel sorry for your manager because her expectations likely lead her & her teammates to disappointment and sap their energy. Criticism and negativity are both coping mechanisms that don't really work. Finally, there are workplaces and managers that do respect their employees and use encouragement to lift them up and deliver better results. You don't have to stay at this job forever, and it doesn't make you less of a person if you leave.

It's saddening that your manager is unable to respect your boundaries. It might be good to talk to a therapist about this and journal about it to take some of that dark energy out. Other ideas include: peppering yourself with positive and factual self-affirming statements that you can write down and then open later when you are feeling down. Then, you can remind yourself of the other instances where people said good things about you. Remind yourself that the manager's views are opinions and not a reflection of who you are as a person. Opinions are personal judgement that hold little to no meaning in other environments. There are people who get told that they cannot do a thing, but in the end they are able to do that and more. Keep your head high. Hold an air of indifference. If it's truly toxic, attempt to apply to jobs when you get home. That way, you can count the days until you can escape.

Well it’s hard to take criticism from anyone. But if you think of it if more of a helpful tip then it might help you. I don’t take criticism well either but once you learn your strengths and your weaknesses it’s so much easier to try and take the criticism. Also try not to look into the criticism as much, that can totally help with your stress level and it will make other things in life a lot easier to handle. Find the positive side of things and it can also help with you threshold. It is ok to feel this way, but you should also try and talk to your manager as well just to let her know how you feel.