How can I deal with being blamed for things that aren't my fault?

You have to remind yourself that the way other people act or react is often times out of your control. I know it can be incredibly frustrating but the more you hone in on the things you can control, the less out of control and helpless about the situation you'll feel. My worst experience being blamed for things that weren't my fault was while I was serving in the military and struggling with severe mental illness. I was often being blamed for personality failures when it was simply an untreated illness. This was very damaging to my self esteem and confidence. After years of therapy, it has been wonderful to see myself start to heal.

It doesn't brings you anything when you blame that persons back. You just have to keep on giving your best. Sometimes, you'll be honored for what you're doing and just try to ignore it for the first time.

Remember that is not your fault! The person who may be assigning the blame to you, may not be able to take responsibility for his or her actions. In addition, sometimes people lash out at others during challenging times or times of needs.

Take a step back and calm yourself. Remind yourself that there is the possibility that the other person is having a bad day. If you believe that you didn't do anything wrong, or have done your best in the given situation. Explain to them your side. If things did not turn out for the better, stay away from the situation. You don't deserve to be treated unjustly.

It will hurt you will feel bad but at the end of the day you know it's not your fault. If it really bothers you then you should do something that you enjoy doing and get it off your mind for a while.

Although you can't always stay quiet and take the blame, it'll be a wise choice to do so and try to avoid an argument. But it's also important to talk it out calmly so you won't be labelled by others for what you're blamed for.

Do your best to prove through your actions that those things aren't your fault. If you do the best you can with what you have, nobody can blame you

What matters most is how we feel about ourselves. If you know that you are not to blame, then what others feel towards you doesn't matter. The best thing to do, is to surround yourself with positive people who love you and care about you and free yourself from the negative ones.

Identifying that you may be experiencing unnecessary blame and/or guilt is the first step to taking the power away from the accuser. Afterwards, finding a safe and trusted individual that can validate your experience and feelings is one alternative. If you don't have access to someone like that, another is journaling or any sort of creative outlet in which you can name, identify and express your story. In finding validation for your experience, this enables your body to release the stored emotions (be it anger, disappointment, shame and/or guilt, betrayal, sadness), process the experience, and move past the blame.

Work for finding out area of influence that you have. Things that are out of your area of influence should not be bothering you very much and that you need to consciously teach yourself. Things that are in your direct area of influence, responsibility of those lie with you. Need to be taking responsibilities of those and learn how to accept mistakes and move on.