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Why does my girlfriend cut herself?

Profile: SurvivingPheonix
SurvivingPheonix on Sep 4, 2016
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Because her mind is tricking her into believing that this is the only way for her to step out of her skin and be someone else entirely. Or, it's a way to cover the emotional pain with a physical one. In either cases, you need to be there for her. Listen to her, be the support she needs.
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Profile: SympatheticPrune2001
SympatheticPrune2001 on Sep 7, 2016
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She might be stressed about something, or she might feel she did something wrong and this is her way of punishing herself.
Profile: Jesse1285
Jesse1285 on Sep 8, 2016
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Cutting and self harm can have many root causes. It is impossible for someone who is not your girlfriend to give you a definitive answer. In your case, talking to her calmly and without judgement may allow her to open up to you and give you a clear answer. Be prepared to help her deal with it and do not minimize her concerns.
Profile: DylanNz
DylanNz on Sep 10, 2016
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She may be feeling upset about something. Ask her and support her anyway you can. Be calm and collected when talking about sensitive topics such as these. Make her feel safe.
Profile: TheTripleS719
TheTripleS719 on Sep 17, 2016
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She's fighting a battle inside of herself, one that nobody else can see. She might not even be aware of it. Cutting is an addiction, just like any other drug. She needs your support right now, if it's ever going to stop.
Profile: lacedaniellehelp17
lacedaniellehelp17 on Sep 23, 2016
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She is having issues within herself. Maybe depression or etc. you need to talk to her because cutting is a difficult habit. She's not happy and she needs medical attention.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 2, 2016
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Very low self esteem, distraction from emotional pain, easier to focus on physical pain than emotional pain.
Profile: MachineGKyla
MachineGKyla on Oct 5, 2016
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Good question. There are a lot of different answers for that. She doesn't think she's worth it, she feels alone, she thinks she deserves it. We can't really know because she's the expert on herself
Profile: onedirection1213
onedirection1213 on Oct 6, 2016
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because maybe shes going through alot and cutting makes her feel better from what shes going to.
Profile: coffeekitten14
coffeekitten14 on Oct 7, 2016
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Cutting is a way to cope. Talk to her. Ask her what's going on, but if she doesn't want to talk about it, leave her be. Try and be supportive and tell her that she's worth it. Don't get mad at her or tell her that she has to stop, because that will only make her feel worse. She might be cutting because she feels like she can't do anything right, family stress, or maybe she's just cutting for attention. Either way, try and be supportive and kind all the time.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 14, 2016
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Non-suicidal self injury is a coping mechanism. Your girlfriend may be experiencing depression or may even be trying to cope with something stressful.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 19, 2016
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I am a person that at one point was known to cut. That is all it ever was and I was always on watch because of it. I always felt alone, no one could here more, and sometimes that they didn't want to here me. I felt like I was worthless, when in reality I really wasn't. I believed I was unable to do anything right, especially when I really did screw up. I just felt like life wasn't really worth what people always said it was because I felt so much pain in my heart that it was useless to do anything else. For some reason cutting myself released all of that anger in myself the pain, the loneliness. I ended up getting help and I found a support group that was there for me. It was my family. The people I live with everyday and I always believe never understood me or what I was going through. They understood the entire time I was struggling, but they also knew I needed to see that so they never pushed. Only got me the help when I needed it the most.
Profile: Selfhelp03
Selfhelp03 on Oct 19, 2016
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Maybe is because she is depressed. She needs company and she is passing through something that is making her doing this.
Profile: brndtt
brndtt on Oct 26, 2016
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Maybe because your girlfriend feels something inside her and she's afraid to tell anyone about her feelings that's why.
Profile: PsychiatristPatty
PsychiatristPatty on Oct 27, 2016
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Sometimes there seems to be no answer to why one may self-harm. Many say that it is for attention, which sometimes it may be, but that is normally not the case. Many who cut cut due to depression, or to feel pain, or feel anything, to see themselves hurt and feel punished, to see themselves bleed. There are many reasons, physical and mental behind why a person may do it. The thing is that there is no right or wrong answer to why one may do it. Even needing attention is a valid reason. Self harm is not a good way to go, but remember that it is better than other things that one may want to or could do. Just try to be there for her and listen to her. Therapy can always help. Also, there are many ways to help distract one from self harming, if even for only a little while. Try looking up sways online, and reasons for self harm online as well. I wish you both the best and hope that her road to recovery is fast.
Profile: Mayathyst44
Mayathyst44 on Nov 3, 2016
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It's a way for her to cope, some people use drink etc but for her it's a way of releasing her hurt or upset. Try to let her know your always there for her.
Profile: blissfulHug33
blissfulHug33 on Nov 3, 2016
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Well it's not something that has a definite answer. Don't ask her why she cuts, cause there really is no answer for it. It's like trying to explain colour to a blind person. You should try to make sure that she stops doing that. And you can do this by showing her Unconditional love and support.
Profile: Butterfly121
Butterfly121 on Nov 3, 2016
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Self harm and cutting can be signs of deep emotions and difficult mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. Often people who experience these mental health problems use self harm as a way to feel something or to feel in control of what they feel is a hopeless situation. If you suspect or know that someone you care for is struggling with these issues please refer them to a therapist or chatline so that they can get the help that they need.
Profile: earthch1ld
earthch1ld on Nov 10, 2016
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That is something that you have to ask her yourself. Each person has their own reasons. Be supportive and caring, and she will feel a lot more comfortable talking to you about it.
Profile: PupperDoggo
PupperDoggo on Nov 10, 2016
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Unfortunately there are many people who feel the need to cut themselves. They may wish to punish themselves or to simply "feel" something because they are so emotionally numbed. There are also those that feel relief from cutting when they are emotionally overwhelmed. Cutting is a coping mechanism, however it is not a healthy one. If you know someone that cuts I would invite you to encourage them to see a mental health professional. Regardless of what you do, at the very least, offer support to that person and let them know that you care for them. Let them know that they can cope in other ways than cutting.
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