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When I'm angry, why do I always feel the need to hurt myself?

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Anonymous on Dec 7, 2015
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I cant speak for anyone else besides myself. But a majority of the time Im angry is over something stupid I did, or some mistake I made. "me" is the common theme for my anger. And most of the time I become angry at myself I feel the same way you are.
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Anonymous on Jan 1, 2016
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I used to hurt myself when I was angry too, when I used to do it, it was mainly for a distraction and so I didn't have to focus on what was truly going on around me.
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Gracie8700 on Jan 3, 2016
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You probably like the idea of pain so when you hurt yourself the pain will then take your mind off things
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I am saying this totally from my experience..I might be wrong here..but it's because you need control..or should I say you need your control "back" because when you are angry..you are actually in control of the anger and by hurting yourself...you are finding a way to vent it out..the quickest way actually, which will give you your control back.
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Anonymous on Jan 7, 2016
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Most people believe it gets ride of stress but that is not the case. It just usually makes the person feel relieved. But what your really doing is hurting yourself.
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Anonymous on Jan 8, 2016
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Sometimes when you become angry you start to feel numb and the only way to stop the numbness can maybe be to hurt yourself. It is a way to stop the numbness. A bad way at that too.
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beautifulLight666 on Jan 8, 2016
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because its away to deal with the problem, when you don't have healthy coping mechanisms, you can do different ways to deqal with it
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LoveIsLouderx0x on Jan 9, 2016
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A lot of the times when i am angry and want to hurt myself its because i do not want to hurt anything or anyone else
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Anonymous on Jan 13, 2016
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Sometimes people would rather take out their angry emotions on themselves rather than hurting other people that they care about. .
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corageousSea72 on Jan 13, 2016
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Because it is hard to express your emotions sometimes and can end up blaming yourself for the tricky emotions.
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NaturalVision18 on Jan 31, 2016
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Usually when a person is angry and they want to hurt themselves its mostly because they cant take their anger out elsewhere. When you get angry and feel that need, writing the thoughts and the feelings down helped me a lot when i was going through that same problem, after i wrote it down if i was still angry i would flush the paper in bits down the toilet and i would be calm by then. If you do not flush it down the toilet you could always keep a journal where you have all the times you have been mad.
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Anonymous on Feb 6, 2016
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What you state is a great feeling of helplessness. Try channeling that helplessness using a stress ball or performing tasks breathing .
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elliejade on Feb 10, 2016
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This might be because self harm releases endorphin's that tend to relieve you and make you feel more relaxed. It may also be because you feel like whatever has angered you was your fault so you take it out on yourself.
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EnlightenedLux on Feb 11, 2016
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This is because you wish to punish yourself for your actions. No matter what scenario or circumstances an individual faces it is ultimately their response of whether to feel anger or not, and punish yourself accordingly.
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ari88 on May 17, 2016
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Self-harm may have become your automatic reaction to any kind of situations, whether it is to relieve pain or to give yourself more pain because you think you deserve it.
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KristenHR on Jun 5, 2016
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Sometimes when I've experienced anger, it's because I made what I thought was a big mistake. So I'm upset with myself. Maybe I'm embarrassed or experiencing a memory of being told in the past that I was an embarrassment. There have been times that the desire to punish myself was the thing I needed to do. So I'd hurt myself. At other times, I didn't want to feel that emotion, so I'd hurt myself. There could be a lot of reasons that someone might hurt themselves when angry, but in my experience it is the emotions under the anger that are creating the feeling that i need to hurt me.
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SkylinePainter on Jun 7, 2016
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I think its a way to cope with all the feelings inside of you and letting them out and making yourself feeling more relax. When you don't know how to make yourself feel better na dletting out all that anger, you feel like you want to hurt yourself. Especially if you have thoughts of being failed in life or have bad confidence all that anger inside of you turns against yourself.
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highoffesme on Oct 2, 2016
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I think the same way it's just natural I tend to just think positive and keep my head up and so should you love because no matter what your special in else's someone's eyes
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Anonymous on Oct 12, 2016
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I think that for a lot of people, the pain distracts them from whatever is really bothering them. For me, it wasn't really like that, but more of a stress release so that I could focus on something that wasn't hurting me so much. I felt a lot more emotional than physical pain.
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Anonymous on Oct 13, 2016
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You feel angry but mostly from yourself. Things that triggered your anger may somehow be connected about you.
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