How to deal with self-harm alone?

Self harm can make you feel really isolated and distanced from reality. If you can tell someone close to you then that would be a huge step in you being able to talk things out which would hopefully take alway the need for self harm. But if not then their is always doctors and others who are there for the exact reason of being able to help

Self harm is extremely hard to deal with alone. It is not impossible, but extremely difficult and near impossible. It is always best to try to seek help, even if it seems scary. However here are some tips to help stop self harm: 1- as hard as it is, put off self harm as long as you can. Like any addiction, it doesnt go away overnight and takes a lot of time, effort and patience. If this is especially hard to do, try setting a rule of time. For example, if I still feel like self harming in an hour, I will allow myself to do it. As you are able to complete the goal and successfully avoid harming, raise the time. 2- distraction is always key. As soon as you get an urge, try to distract yourself. Go watch a movie or show, play som of your davorite music, go on a walk, read a book, meditate, do breathing exercises, cook, anything that sounds fun and distract you from your current thoughts. 3- if distraction is not working out well, do safer things to get what you want. First, identify why you want to harm yourself. Do you want pain? Hold some ice tightly in your hands or snap a hairtye or rubber band around your wrist. Do you want the sight? Draw on your body what you want to do, then wash it off. 4- try out the Butterfly project. You can google it for more information, but basically you draw a butterfly or multiple in the area (s) you self harm or want to. Optional, name them after someone important to you such as an idol, family member or friend. If you harm yourslf in that area, the butterfly (and if you bamed it, that person) dies. The goal is to let the butterfly fade away naturally and not have self harmed while the butterfly remained. 5-Similar to 1, give yourself a goal. For example, if I do not self harm in the next two weeks, I'll treat myself to a movie. 6- understand that relapses can and will occur, wether you have gobe only a few days clean, months or years. As hard and dissapointing as it may be to break your clean streak, that is okay. Just keep trying! You made it this far, and you can make it even further next time!

Dealing with self-harm alone can be hard and often, you would want to keep it to yourself. In order to deal with it, perhaps try alternatives such as using hair bands and snapping it until the urge goes away. Or using a sharpie to create pretend wounds. Sometimes when everything feels too overwhelming, going for a walk to clear your mind is very helpful and a great distraction until the urge disappears.

Self-harm is quite a personal thing. However, it is something that when you feel ready to discover your worthiness is worth sharing with a person that you trust. We do not have to do anything alone. We were never supposed to. We were born into an interconnected world where connection is a necessity. If you don't feel like you are at the point where you are ready to confide in someone and get the help that I hope you know you deserve, then I just implore you to be as careful and as sanitary as you possibly can and think about starting a self-care plan. Because you are worthy of love and belonging.

Try distraction techniques such as drawing where you may want to hurt or snapping an elastic band on your wrist

It all starts with you, so to do it alone you have to gain independence and confidence in yourself. Not everyone needs support from others. Others do, others don't.

Try not to harm yourself instead draw on your arm, that way its still the same without the harm. If that doesn't work try to do something you love. Another alternative is getting a ice cube and squeeze it

It's difficult to deal with self-harm alone, but if you must, you must do two things to start with. Firstly, exercise self-discipline. Self-harming doesn't get you better, so you must learn to mentally overcome self harm urges. You are stronger than you think, and to fight such urges requires mental strength and resilience. The other thing is to forgive yourself - that doesn't mean that you've done anything wrong or that it's your fault, but simply that you accept that what has happened is in the past, and you're ready to move on and not let it hold you back. :)

The truth is there's no way that you can deal with self-harm alone. This Behavior keeps you isolated and away from each other so you were more inclined to actually self-harm because you feel isolated. Try reaching out to friends or even try finding a therapist that could help you this is the best way that you can deal with your self harm.

Use ice instead of a sharp object, it hurts a little less but is very healthy, also doesn't last a long time so you won't have to worry about anyone finding out