How can I help my best friend who self harms?

Try not to pressure them out of self harm as this can have a negative effect. Instead, offer your support and understanding and show them that you care. If they go an amount of time without self harming be proud and supportive but do not act disappointed if they slip up again. Negative emotions are more likely to have a negative effect on the situation.

There are many ways you can care for and support those you love who are dealing with self-harm. Being there for them is the first and most important thing you, as the friend, can do for another!

always be by her side. listen to all her problems. send her some inspirational quotes. you should also help her be strong enough to stop harming herself. help her find a new hobby or anything that keeps her mind off self harm.

Talk to her but please be very sensitive about the topic. Ask her why she does it or what's going on in her head. She probably has some triggers that makes her feel like doing it, ask if she has any. Normally anyone who hurts themselves hate talking about it so don't be too pushy because that may set her off. Be gentle and loving. There are A LOT of alternatives to self harm, so maybe looks those up to help your friend. I hope it works out.

You can suporrt him by caring about him and getting professional help for him. He'll probably try to push you away and be alone, but you have to realise that's just part of the mindset a self harming person tends to have, so you have to let him know you are there for him, without being to suffocating either.

If your best friend is in an early stage of self harm, it would be best to try to stop them. Self harm can lead to many psychological disorders, which then makes their health even more precarious. Start by observing their behavior. Is there a set time they self harm? How much do they do it? How often? Then make sure that you are always there whenever they need a shoulder to cry on, or a best friend to talk to. A heart to heart conversation when they feel comfortable is the second step to support. Then try to offer ways to distract them such as personal hobbies or group activities. After that, everything is up to you to continue supporting them and hopefully, they'll find a way to stop self harm. I hope that helped! :)

Don't tell them to just "stop" as that never works. Ask her what she needs, maybe she just wants someone there for her and in that case, just stick with her through her tough times (-: It will be annoying and aggravating but I promise, it will mean so much to her, if you were there

The best way you can help your friend is by supporting her. Just be there for her and treat her normally but let her know you are there if she wants to talk or to go somewhere to take her mind off things. Supporting a friend who self-harms can be difficult sometimes but remember it is not your fault and make sure you get some support yourself if you're finding things hard!

(TW self harm for the whole answer) Hey, I know this can be a very difficult situation. I understand it’s sometimes hard to figure out what to do, especially when your friend has personal issues that are new to you at first. The fact that you’re willing to help is wonderful, and I‘m sure you’re gonna learn how to, soon. Here are some tips i learned from personal experience: The most important thing to do is don’t judge them, and show that to them. Don’t ask them about their scars, unless they indicate they want to talk to you about it. Don’t mention when you see signs of recent self harm, unless you guys specifically established that you can talk about it. People who self harm usually deal with a lot of guilt and shame enforced by society and their mental illness. They might feel embarrassed when they understand that you noticed, and worry that you judge them or think less of them when they relapsed - even if you don’t think so at all! It’s important to make your acceptance clear through your actions and to understand that not every fear and doubt is rational. Show them that you care. Ask them how they feel, when you notice they are closing off. Leave them space, when they ask you to. You can find different ways of expressing how much they mean to you through simple things. For example, bringing them a snack you know they will like. Sending them a picture of something related to their interests, saying „hey this made me think of you“. And of course, listening to them when they need someone to talk to. Communication is key! Ask them, how you can help them best. Maybe they don’t know, and that’s okay. You can figure this out together. If you’re patient with one another, you can find out what your friend needs specifically of you. Respect their wishes, and don’t try to lecture them. On the other hand, please also communicate to your friend about your needs. In the end, it all comes down to communication and compassion. Please don’t forget to take care of yourself as well.

If my best self harms and it comes to my attention then my first step is to confide in him/her. It can be scary to talk about the very thing you have worked so hard to hide, but it can also be a huge relief to finally let go of your secret and share what you’re going through. Also, being best friend my behavior in such circumstances should be trustworthy so that he/she can at least think of sharing there dark secret to get a sought of relief. I should make them earn to manage overwhelming stress and emotions. Get in touch with their feelings. Offer support and encourage communication. Positive communication and try to divert their mind. Help to cultivate good hobbies and habits.