How can I tell my child they're adopted?

The best thing is to tell them from a very young age, so there is no particular moment when they have the realization. This way it doesn't seem like a big deal, and the kids know that you have always been honest with them. Telling the kids that them being put up for adoption was to their benefit is important. Reminding them that these parents still chose to give birth to them shows that they cared enough to give them a chance at life.

Telling child that s/he is adopted is anxiety-provoking task. As a result most parents avoid or delay disclosing the fact about adoption. However, at some point adopted children need to be told about their origins, ideally even before middle childhood. In Indian context, it was realized that the ideal time for telling children about their adoption appears to be between the ages of 7 to 9 years. By the time children are 7 years old, they usually feel established enough in their family not to feel threatened by learning about adoption. Children below 7 years have fears about the loss of their parents, their love, have low self-confidence and have strong emotional reaction. Therefore, disclosing them about adoption can be risky. In addition, there is some question about whether a child under 7 years of age can understand the meaning of adoption and be able cognitively to work through the losses implied by learning that he was born into a different family. When adopted children are between the ages of seven to nine years, they have better understanding of being adopted as they develop. Children ask specific questions about his/her biological parents, in a sense to construct a more accurate "memory" of his/her original family, and how he came to be adopted. Tips for disclosure: • Take professional help. If you are worried, consult psychologist/counselor. Disclosure at right time is important. Share your concerns and discuss alternatives to tell child that s/he is adopted. • Familiarize child and family members with the word “adoption” using stories: Use the word "adoption" regularly. The word shouldn't become your primary focus, but say it when it feels natural. This way "adoption" never becomes taboo. Read books about adoption, such as Adoption in India: Policies and Experiences, by Vinita Bhargava, The Penguin Guide to Adoption in India, by Dr. Alooma Lobe and Jayapriya Vasudevan, The Day We Met You, by Phoebe Koehler, and Let's Talk About It: Adoption, by Fred Rogers. Weave your own tale how a child was adopted and introduce the concept of adoption. • Create a memory book. Children love seeing what they looked like as babies and learning about their own history, even if they don't understand every aspect. Keep photos of the day they brought her home, snapshot of the adoption agency, friends at adoption agency etc. • Observe child: After disclosure, observe how child is reacting. Every child reacts differently. Some child express anger becomes sad or fear being adopted or become curious to know more about biological parents. Be considerate and patient. Be loving and caring. Answer child’s every questions and confusion. • Manage unintended disclosure: Sometimes child come to know about his/her status from finding adoption documents, photos, or outside family member outbreak the status. Child may react with anger, fear or mixed emotions. Sometimes child ask such questions that that parents are not prepared to answer. Questions such as "Did I grow in your tummy?" “how did I come on the earth,” “my friend said, “your parents are not real. You are adopted.” Is this right? Be prepared to answer these questions. It is recommended to provide honest answer. • Be patient. While your child is informed about adoption, s/he might not acknowledge the fact that s/he is adopted. Be patient. It may take time to accept the reality. It's perfectly natural for her to ask questions—sometimes even the same ones over and over again. Answer them patiently. Provide love and care. Thanks for reading this. Hope this is helpful. Kindly share your feedback and experience related to this.

you're still his parents , just not biological , dont tell him during teenage ,he will just overreact

Ok, Just copy that "I love you Dear and want to share a small secret with you that I am not you biological Parent" And then add I will tell you the meaning of biological some other day>.

Well you should tell them when there really young cause it will really hurt them if they find out when there older look them straight in the eyes and tell them they where adopt but be there for emotional support cause they still mite need support.

You can just be honest with them. If they question your love for them, let them know that out of all the babies that could have came to live with you, you chose them because they were special to you the moment that you saw them.

Well take them out on a date with you and your husband and explain how some kids get adopted and tell them you adopted and tell them you adopted them because you cared for them and still do

It can be a difficult thing to do. Sit them down and explain that you are they'd parent, and that you love them very much. Explain that you will always be they're mother/father, and that at some point another mommy and daddy couldn't keep them. Explain that you are they're parent becaue of it.

The most important thing is to remember to be as honest as possible and to tell them as earlier rather than later. So many people are afraid that the child will not understand, but I have found more times than not that the child will understand and want to learn more as they become more mature. And as parents it is important to support that natural curiosity. The fact is that you tried to explain from the beginning and not hidden the fact from them. That will mean more in the future.

Start by showing them how much you truly care and love them, then be completely honest with them. Sometimes it is okay to break it down and especially to go in depth as to why they have been adopted so they acknowledge and understand.