How can I learn to control my emotions when I don't even know what they are?

You can always change your emotions into art, and you can physically see what you're feeling. Turn it into music, exercise, anything that fits your personal style. Try to connect with your inner self.

I find it helpful to try to 'sit with' the emotions. Let them exist, without fighting them. I also take this time to see how the emotions are showing in my body. Is my heart beating quickly? Do I feel warm? All the while, I try to keep in mind that they will, eventually, pass.

accept them, it is normal that your body feels something sometimes that you can not understand. Tell them someone, maybe they know more or had one of them too so you do not feel that lonely anymore

Maybe control isn't the goal. When in doubt, take the time to name those emotions. Explore them. With yourself if you can handle it or with others you trust. How can you control what you cannot put your finger on?

One way to control your emotions is to first learn and practice breathing exercising. They work for relieving anger, stress, sadness at times and other emotions. Second is to process your emotions and where they could stem from and third is to do something to help release those emotions in a positive way

Try meditation, it can help you find peace and push those unknown feelings aside to make you feel comfortable and at peace

There are workbooks and free resources on becoming more aware of your reactions to situations and emotions. You might want to look up Dialectic Behavioral Therapy or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to help you understand yourself, let yourself feel, and be more mindful and in control.

Calming yourself down when you’re frustrated, of course, may be more easily said than done. If you tend to fly off the handle when aggravated, and express your outrage to everyone within earshot (or on the other end of an email), your emotions could be costing you important relationships, your job, and even your health.

I feel that writing out your thoughts in a completely unfiltered format can be helpful. I like to use a website called 750words.com. You can write anything that comes to mind and usually in the attempt to write down all of your thoughts, you gain an understanding of your thought process and your emotions. From there, it becomes a lot easier to know what the correct next steps are.

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I used to deal with controlling my emotions in my high schools days. It is hard to figure out why you feel a certain way, when all you can think about is the anger. Controlling emotions is never easy. I have seen that it is easier to control emotions when you right down how you feel, and the re-visit the journal entry later on. Reading the entry may trigger that emotion in you, and allow you to realize what it was that made you upset. Talking to your friends, family members, or even 7 Cups of Tea may allow you to dig deeper into why you may feel that your emotions are uncontrollable.