How can I learn to control my emotions when I don't even know what they are?

It's normal not to know what your emotions really are. But you just have to do a basic thing: breath. Breath deeply as many times as you need, count until 10, 100, 1000. Of course this won't make the feeling go away, but it will control your heart for a few time, and that is already a huge step.

To learn to control my emotions I need to know what they are. To learn to know what they are, I would use the arts to express my emotions. Arts like painting, reading, dance, theatre, music provide the opportunity to express emotions at a deeper level. In the absence of access to the arts, I would create a journal which will help me express myself. Alternately I would seek help in a forum like 7 cups of tea.

It can be difficult to understand your feelings, and even more difficult to become in control of these emotions. Speaking from personal experience, seeing a licensed professional can EXTREMELY help you to not only manage and control your emotions, but to fully understand how you are feeling. If, for some reason, you do not have access to a therapist or counselor or another licensed professional, figure out things that calm you down. When do you feel the most at ease? Is it while listening to music? Is it while texting a friend? Is it while swimming? Once you find your own personal "happy place," it is easier to try and become a part of that place rather than whatever place your negative emotions take you.

It's not about controlling them sometimes, often it's more about letting yourself feel whatever it is you're feeling. Your emotions are valid and you are entitled to feel however you are feeling. Once you start that you can start to figure out what they are and how to handle and cope with them.

You can start with identifying them and then try to find what causes you to feel like it, so you can control them by not doing the trigger.

Controlling emotions and controlling thoughts are a matter of where your attention is. If you embrace negative emotions or submit to them or chase the thoughts, we become absorbed in them. To get a break from our emotions or thinking, we can use this simple exercise that can be done anywhere. While breathing naturally, silently count one on the inhale. Two on the exhale, three on the inhale...continuing up to 10. Then start at one again. As time allows you can continue to allow the breath to get deeper and still maintain natural breathing. Would you like to try it now? So having tried it, how do you feel?

Usually, I would engage myself in an activity that I like. Reading a new books, writing a poem or anything, baking or even drawing . It all helped.

You can try to find out what your emotions are by asking yourself what doesn't make you feel good at the moment, what lead to your current situation. Try to think about things that might distract you or made you feel happy or at least better in the past. Sometimes we don't really know what our emotions are but still we can try make ourselves feel better by taking care of ourselves, treat ourselves and do small positive things :)

You seem to be out of touch with yourself. You can try to observe your emotions when you are talking to someone or when you are doing an activity. Is it happiness, boredom, or mere indifference? Meditation simply by listening to your breath is another way to realise your current emotional state. Shutting your mind's endless chatter works wonders via meditation. Sending good vibes, Tejash:)

I think that the best thing to do is sit down and really think about how you are feeling and why you are feeling that way. Sometimes we generalize our feelings without ever getting to the real root of them. For example, anger is the product of many underlying emotions, such as fear, and pain. Without truly examining the underlying issue you may have more difficulty controlling them.