How can I learn to control my emotions when I don't even know what they are?

Learning to identify our emotions can sometimes picturing what the emotion looks like if someone else was experiencing it. What emotion were they feeling when they described how you are feeling now? Sometimes emotions are all mixed up, and it can be helpful to stop and sort out which emotion we are feeling. There are emotion charts online that can help to give pictures to relate to emotions. A good counselor can help you to identify emotions and work with you in recognizing them in yourself, and then help you identify how to control them. Most of us know when we feel good - it's the bad feelings we want to control. Sometimes identifying emotions means paying attention to the physical symptoms of what we are experiencing. Such as tense muscles, a frown or tight jaws, clenched hands, etc., can be related many times to anger. Feeling anxious or fidgety, worried, feeling sweaty or feeling your heart racing may be related to anxiety. If we can paint the picture, then we can try to figure it out. Then we can read, talk and research options on how to manage them.

When ever my father starts to show his narcissistic colors, I go into what i call "robot mode." Basically, i take a few deep breaths and tell myself "what your feeling right now is fake and you are being manipulated to feel this" because N's manipulate people around them to make themselves feel better.

It sucks to feel lost, and yes sometimes we have no idea what exactly what we're feeling, but tracking your thoughts would help. Thought are what trigger emotions. Being able to track your thoughts could be hard, but it would really help in controlling how you feel and think.

Just stay calm, try finding out what makes you have them feelings and distinguish them from other feelings. Talk to your friends and loved ones about it, you'll be surprised they may know how to help

Managing emotions when we're not quite aware how we're feeling is super tough! A good way I find to help me manage emotions when I'm not sure is to vent down what's on my mind, good or bad in a diary read over it and pick out what emotion stands out, this however is not the only method and it may or may not work for you.

Think about what your situation is, can you establish some feelings? (separate the ones you can identify from the others) If you can, try harder and harder. Think of what you want to be stable for. Is there a family member? A boyfriend/girlfriend? A best friend? A pet? Think of them, you don't want to be very unstable for them. They care about you just as much as you care about them. They love you, the relationship will get confusing with you being unstable for them. They are your rock, they expect the same from you.

Take a nap. That's the simpliest way to get that annoyance out of your mind. When you wake up, just remember that all's gone and spring is coming, that's all.

You can learn to control your emotions even when you don't know what they are by writing down everything you feel in a daily journal! :)

Begin by writing down your thoughts, it's a great way to release some built up emotions and help you to figure out what they are.

It depends on the person! My favorite way was is to stop and examine my emotions, making sure their in check!