I'm love with my best friend, but she's straight. What do I do?
Riderangel
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Nov 16, 2019
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Well, you can first try telling her that you are not straight.. That ways she will know about you... And if she isn't straight, problem solved.. You can tell her your feelings and she will respond to it.. But if she is clearly telling you she's straight by giving signs that she likes a guy or something like that you could try to get over her... Although there is a possibility that though she is straight she might want to try few things with another girl.. Which you only have to figure out by the way she speaks to you.. I'm the end.. There is someone for everyone.. So just look for yours and don't be disappointed.. Its hard for 2 straight people to get along too..
Anonymous
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Nov 20, 2019
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You have to learn to understand that she loves you as a friend rather than a partner. It may be difficult to move on from her, but you must accept that she has different feelings towards you than you do to her. It might be difficult to do this, and it's normal to feel frustrated or angry, but it would be better for her if you maintained your friendship. I have confidence that you will be able to get through this, and once you have you will be able to love your best-friend for the amazing friend that she is.
Anonymous
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Dec 26, 2019
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i must admit this is the toughest situation to ever be in, and straight people will never understand how it is to have to happen to you.. both of us are aware you can't force or change your friends sexuality.. i know life can be unfair sometimes, and i know it's hard to let go of this person but look at it from a different perspective there is someone out there waiting for you.. jut because one doors are closed doesn't mean the others will be too. you can't do anything but wait and let time change this, or someone new.. good luck!!
Anonymous
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Dec 29, 2019
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This is one of the most universally frustrating things for LGBTQ+ women. You are definitely not alone in this struggle! Unfortunately, there's not much that can be done in terms of getting her to fall in love back. You can't change people into being something they aren't. However, you can still love and support her. Your best friend will always support and love you, and if she doesn't because of your sexuality, then she wasn't worth it in the first place. At the end of the day, it's up to you to take that next step. Your feelings and thoughts are your own.
Anonymous
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Jan 16, 2020
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The best thing you could do in this scenario (if it’s safe for you) is to talk to your friend and get your feelings out in the open. In any relashionship, it’s important to be honest about these sort of things. Talk through it, and explain that you care about your friend, and also understand that they won’t reciprocate. This way, you can be honest, and can move on. It’s not healthy to keep emotions bottled up, especially romantic feelings. As a member of the LBBT+ community, i understand hard it is to be in this situation. But the best option is to be honest and move on.
Anonymous
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Jan 22, 2020
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Having romantic feelings toward someone you are aware has a different sexual orientation that you is never easy. You have many options, but only you can know what is most appropriate for your situation and relationship. Would telling the person make it awkward for either party? Would it be beneficial to express this to them understanding that they very well might not see you in the same romantic light? In life there are many things we have to choose between. They never get easier, but only you will know what is the best for those involved. Just prepare yourself for whatever outcome there might be.
Hedwiglovegood
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Feb 15, 2020
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it does tend to happen unfortunately! i have been through it and its really confusing and stressful. But if you really love them, its best to tell them in a nice way so that they atleast understand what you might be going through. of course, they might be secretly bi but it is wrong to assume!! Don't let it get to you too much. Attractions happen and it is not wrong . it is just a bit tough when it happens with someone you are close to. but isn't that the best? since we can tell them more easily and openly than to anyone else. Don't be scared, they are your friend...just reach out :)
Anonymous
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Mar 4, 2020
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You could always sit her down and tell her how you feel, I know it’s hard but if she’s your best friend she’ll know how hard it was for you. And it’s better to tell her sooner than later.i know it would be hard but at the end of the day she could be more upset with you that you didn’t tell her versus just keeping it to yourself. Either way it’s up to you to choose what you would like to do but if she really is your best friend as I stated before she’ll still be there for you either way
froggieishereforyou
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Mar 4, 2020
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I understand how you're feeling. I am also a queer woman, and I've had many straight crushes. In my experience, letting it go is the best option. You can't magically turn them gay, just as you can't magically be straight. First step (if you do) is to stop thinking of it as an option. Even if it turns out down the line that she likes woman, you do not want to try to push her to like woman. Second step is to distance yourself and spend time with others. While they are your best friend, this'll help you as you try to get over your crush. The third step is the best step. Give it time. Give yourself time to get over her. You are not a bad person for liking her. You are not a predatory gay for liking her. It's a natural thing. It's just like falling in love with a person that is taken.
Anonymous
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Mar 18, 2020
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Accepting what you want from her is the first step. What do you want from her? Do you want her to be with you when you're sad, do you want her able to hug you when you're happy? Once you've asked yourself this, ask what she can actually give you. If she can't give you the hugs that you want, at least she can give you her company when you're sad. And then accepting this for all that it is and sitting with the emotions, even the sadness that you can't be with her. Setting up those healthy boundaries and realizing what you can get and accepting that it might not be all that you want.
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