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I am so confused about my sexuality. I am attracted to men and some women but when I think of sex personally I am revolted the thought of doing something. Has anyone else felt this way?

Profile: Laraland
Laraland on Apr 24, 2017
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Maybe it's easier if you see it like food. Everyone needs food. Not everyone loves food, some are afraid of it or try to avoid it, but we need it to survive. Food is like interpersonal relationships. Some people prefer sweet food, some prefer savoury food, others like it spicy. That's all fine, it's different for everyone. Some like men to hang out with and fall in love with, some like women. Now sexual relationships are like healthy snacks between meals. Some love to snack more than they like to have meals. Some like to treat themselves to a very fancy snack once in a while. Some snack away much more than others. And some people, even ones that love food, can't even think of snacking between meals. It does nothing for them and even makes them enjoy the food they usually like, less. And like that - some people, even ones that love to hang out with people and cuddle and talk, really don't want to have sex with them. And that is okay.
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Anonymous on May 15, 2017
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Sex repulsion is common, it even happens among sexually active people! So in that sense your feelings aren't abnormal at all. If you're young, it might be like in my case, that it eases over time. Both the repulsion and confusion about my orientation. You might also want to look into asexuality, there's a lot of interesting information and experiences online,
Profile: plumComputer9840
plumComputer9840 on Apr 25, 2017
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I think you might be heteroflexible if you're a girl and homoflexible if you're a guy. Revolted in what sense? Can you imagine it with a few people or no-one? You should consider demisexuality or asexuality then.
Profile: IcarusFalls
IcarusFalls on May 2, 2017
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You could be asexual or atleast demi-sexual. That means that you either don't experience sexual attraction often or not at all. It's okay and it's normal. There's nothing wrong with it. You still feel romantically attracted though. You could search both terms online. I hope this helps!
Profile: helplessloser
helplessloser on May 6, 2017
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You maybe asexual-biromantic. It's totally okay to feel this way, there's many people out there who feel the same way! You're not alone. If you're wondering what asexual-biromantic means it's that you're romantically attracted to men and women but don't want sexual relations/feel the lack of sexual attraction. :) hope I helped
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 23, 2017
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You can be asexual (feel no sexual attraction, or be sex repulsed) even if you experience romantic attraction to one or more genders or find them aesthetically pleasing. I find myself in the same boat, being romantically attracted to both men and women and finding them hot/beautiful/aesthetically pleasing, but repulsed at the idea of sex. If you wanted a label, the closest would probably be biromantic asexual
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Anonymous on Jun 5, 2017
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Sexual and romantic attraction are different. There can be many causes for being sexually repulsed. I myself am sexually repulsed but romantically attracted to the opposite sex (I "classify" as hetero romantic asexual). Some people go through this before they have sex, then grow out of it, some people just straight up never like the thought or act of sex, and some people just change over time. So the question is, are you romantically or sexually attracted to people? And its okay to be confused, I sure was :). I agree with the previous reply, looking up and learning about these things can be fun and interesting, it can also help to ease confusion and get connected to like minded people.
Profile: damselinthisdress
damselinthisdress on Jun 12, 2017
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Repulsion to the act of sex is not very uncommon. Some people can be averse to the idea of sex while having attractions for one/both the genders. Especially if you are a first-timer then it is very normal to feel revolted initially, but sex is like any other exercise, it gets easier with time and practice. Also, as I see someone has already said, you can look up asexuality online. That should give you some perspective/closure about your orientation. :)
Profile: KindKat00
KindKat00 on Jul 4, 2017
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Many people question their very own sexuality. It's completely normal. The best thing for you to do is take time to think and decide what is best for you.
Profile: BouncyTurtleDream
BouncyTurtleDream on Aug 15, 2017
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Yes. For the longest time I thought I was completely broken and thought that maybe everyone thought this. I was completely wrong. You might be asexual. Being asexual means that you are attracted to people romantically, but don't like the idea of sexual or feel revolted even thinking about it.
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