How do you know if your bisexual?
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Updated: Aug 2, 2020
Anonymous
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Jun 6, 2019
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I find that it is something i realized slowly, as I began to come to terms with the fact that my feelings for other girls was the same as mine for boys. However, if you think you are you probably are. It really is a personal decision to identify as that, and you can choose for yourself how you want to identify, and if bisexual is the word you want to use then by all means go for it. Good luck on figuring these things out and finding your identity! This is a journey that I am excited for you to be able to take.
Anonymous
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Jun 6, 2019
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Being bisexual means attraction to two or more genders, if you think that you are or have experienced that than that may be an indication that you are bisexual. You do not need to of had an experience with someone of the same or different gender (or any gender) to know if you are bisexual. If you are questioning and think that you may be bi then you might be. But it’s up to you to determine your sexuality, nobody else can tell you how you identify yourself and who you feel attracted to inside. I hope that this helped you.
Anonymous
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Jun 6, 2019
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You know if you’re bisexual if you feel a sexual attraction to two or more genders(without it being all genders). It can be male/female, male/non-binary, female/non-binary, or any other combination of genders. If you still feel an attraction to two or more genders without it being all genders but it isn’t a sexual attraction, you could be biromantic, which is romantic attraction to two or more genders. If the attraction you do feel is to all genders, depending on whether gender matters or not to you, you would either be pansexual/panromantic (all genders, gender matters) or omnisexual/omniromantic (all genders, gender doesn’t matter)l
HappyUnicorn21
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Jun 7, 2019
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I usually get attractions towards both sexes. But it's not like it is 50-50 but it may be 70-20 or even 20-70 sometimes. I got my first crush in class 8 and she was of same sex as mine. Literally faced a lot of bullying after that. I searched the net about being a lesbian but I realised that I can't rule out my attractions towards opposite sex. So I decided I am bisexual. Being a bisexual can be confusing sometimes. So, if you want to know if you are bisexual, just consider your as gay if you are a boy and lesbian if you are a girl. Next observe how would you feel if you dated a person from opposite gender. If your attractions are romantic and sexual, you are most probably bisexual. Be free to explore other areas such as "heterosexual homoromantic" etc. That belongs to queer category.
Heartfulllistener
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Jun 12, 2019
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To find out your sexuality you have to experiment with all kinds of people. You will probably find a group of people you like mentally and sexually. Or you might like all people no matter what gender or sexuality, that is ok too. In order to know who you are interested in, you have to experiment and test the waters. Even though it might be stressful at first, but you will have a conclusion in the long run. Remember that if this comes to much to handle, you can always come to 7 cups to vent. It can be helpful to just be able to talk to someone sometimes.
Anonymous
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Jul 26, 2019
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If you feel confident and attracted to both genders with no shame! This is the way I feel however I have not explored same-gender yet but when my girlfriend asked if I would consider I said yes! And if you think about it it gives you more variety and there's nothing wrong with it! My girlfriend and I are both bicurious and proud of it.. in fact when we talk about it with other like-minded people we find it very very interesting an exciting with no shame I believe that those are the signs and if you give it a try and like it you are bisexual but you do not have to label yourself if you do not desire!
LetsCherishLife
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Aug 15, 2019
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For me personally I knew that I was bisexual before I knew that bisexuality exists. It was around primary school age when I got my first sexual fantasies and they were all with women so bisexuality is nothing you decide you could try out at some point. I was very confused about it, specially since my romantic interest back then was only towards men. I couldn't imagine to marry a woman for example. Nowadays I can imagine both with each gender. Back then I knew about heterosexuality and homosexuality and I didn't know if I was lesbian or "normal" so I thought you cannot like both and I would have to decide. At 13 I first heard of bisexuality and I was relieved that it actually exists and I'm not crazy or something. So I can't tell if it's the same for everyone but I noticed it by my fantasies and looking into my romantic and sexual interest. It's nothing you can really control you can only decide if you live it out or not.
StreamingBTS123
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Oct 25, 2019
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Well, if you feel attraction towards women and men you would be classified as bisexual. I know this out of own experience. You also need to think about who want to be with, and who you feel attracted too. It may be that you feel shy around them, or aroused, and if you are bisexual you would feel this around men and women.
I know this because I used to have a crush on a guy, but after that I got a girlfriend.
Its also based on who you want to have sex with, in the future.
Anonymous
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Oct 27, 2019
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If you feel that you are sympathetic to a person of your gender - this is normal. If you feel that you suddenly liked a person of the opposite sex when you thought you were gay or lesbian, that’s normal. Nobody deserves oppression because of love and their feelings. This is not a crime or a manifestation of something immoral. You should not be shy about yourself or your emotions, because experiencing love, mutual respect, sympathy, trust is a normal occurrence. Today's society can make you feel worthless, but nothing compares to accepting yourself like that. Good luck, darling.
Anonymous
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Nov 7, 2019
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You're eligible to identify as bisexual if you experience sexual attraction to people of more than one gender identity. Men and women in equal proportion? Great. Occasionally men but mostly women? Great. Men and nonbinary people? Great. Agender people and gender fluid people? Great. It all makes you completely and totally eligible to claim a bisexual identity.
Now why don't I say that it makes you bisexual? Because there are so many different words to describe sexual orientations, especially those that are open to people of more than one gender identity. The words you choose to describe your sexual orientation are your choice. So that's why I think of it as a two step thing. Step 1, are you eligible? Step 2, does that word feel right to you?
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