How do I come out to my parents?

Some people are luckier than others when it comes to coming out and parents. Some people come out at a young age whilst others wait it out. I think it depends on what you think your parents reaction will be. The main thing is that you need to take care of yourself, this is about you, not about them. If you think it is going to be difficult, surround yourself with people to support you at the time that you decide to tell them. If you have a sibling you get on well with and trust maybe you could tell them first and take it from there.

Sit them down and tell them you have something serious to say. Make sure they are ok with it first by mentioning a gay/ trans friend and observing there reaction. Tell them the honest truth. It can help if you write it out first. Have a safety bag and a friend/ family member who you are out to who's house you can stay at for a few days if necessary. Do things that are safe. Use your brain. Please please please Above all, be aware they might react badly or even violently. Don't be too terrified to but be brace enough to stand up for yourself. It will almost certainly turn out alright. Best of luck! Salem

There is not a definite answer, unfortunately :(. The best person to answer this would be you, as it is your special thing and you should be the one who gets to plan it! Remember it only happens once, and that you need to be one hundred percent comfortable with doing it which is why it's sometimes best for you to plan. When you are emotionally and physically reayd to come out I'm sure it will be a natural outpour of words and emotions. There is not a one size fits all - what works for you may not work for others! Good Luck, and keep smiling :)

first, make absolutely certain that your parents/family would be supportive of you. your safety is the most important thing here, so make sure you're safe before you do anything. second, what are you parents like? would they prefer a more serious, formal talk? for you to slip it into conversation? a funny coming out story? i'm bisexual, and my story was a little more serious/formal (just your average talk), but i have a gay friend, and she came out to her mom by joking that she couldn't get pregnant now. you know your parents best, and as long as you're positive that you're safe, come out in the way that seems best for you and for them! good luck, and i'm rooting for you xx

Coming out is hard, and is a very difficult thing to do. I know that, personally, it was probably the scariest thing I’ve ever done, even though I knew they would not react badly. I had to work my way up, first telling my friends, then I told my brothers over a year later. It was scary and new, and it is not always fun to feel like that. The thing is, everyone has a different situation. I had to work my way up over a couple years, but not everyone is like that. Some people realize they are LGBTQ+ and immediately know that it is okay to tell their parents, while others feel unsafe. In order to answer this question, I first have to know if you are in a safe situation by coming out, and it is important to know if you are ready to come out. Sometimes it may hurt to keep it inside, but hurts even more to let it out. It is just important to know how ready you and your parents are, then you can move on from there

Decide first if it’s safe. If it is, sit them down and be clear and concise. Ask if they have questions and support their journey through this. As much as coming out is about you, they’re going to struggle, too. Even the most accepting parents face battles when their kid tells them that they’re LGBT. Make sure to discuss your own feelings and ask them how they're feeling, too. Opening communication lines is incredibly important for a healthy and lasting relationship. If you can, provide resources for them to read and get in touch with religious leaders that are affirming, if that applies.

I did it in in a letter as I felt writing it down was easier and i could get everything down about how i was feeling and then just give the letter to them. It has to be something that is most conformable for you and so if you feel talking to them is easiest do it but i felt the letter was just the best way for me to get everything i needed to say out then the dialogue started afterwards but it was less awkward for me as i wasn't stumbling trying to get the words out. You are incredibly brave and whatever the outcome know that you are loved, you are a good person and doing this will be the best thing you ever did. It changed my life in such a positive way even though my family didn't respond well. Good luck.

That is a very interesting question that many of us ponder over. I would say there is no "right way" of coming out to your parents. It depends on what kind of people your parents are, who are you more comfortable telling? Would you like to tell one parent (the one whom you believe would be more supportive) over the other (who might not be as supportive)? Or would you like to tell them both at the same time? Are you in a safe environment to come out? Do you have support from friends or siblings? I know these are all questions instead of telling you what to do but you would know what is best in the situation you're currently in love. But you're always welcome to pop in and talk to one of us listeners and perhaps during our discussion you'll find the answer to your own question. Good luck!

I never have. My parents are extremely homophobic, and they do not understand gay or lesbian or any other LGBT individuals. If I were to come out, I would be as gentle as possible and as natural as possible. I wouldn’t want to have them sit down and listen to me say something do ground breaking. Instead I would introduce them to my partner, try to relate our relationship to there’s, and comfort any of their new emotions. They may be scared or worried that I’m a different person. But I can reassure them I’m still the same, and what they’re feeling is normal, but I want their love and respect.

Sit them down in a comfortable environment. Start discussing the whole situation with them. Bring up past memories as reminders that you are still the same person and their child. Try to give some facts to clearly establish your sexuality and do not let the topic change or become a conflict. Present all your points patiently and calmly to help them understand you better. The best way would be simply talking to them and sharing your feelings. Being open and honest is the key to making this easier for them and yourself. Do not shy away from difficult questions or issues that might be raised. Lastly, do not let them make you feel that you wrong or bad in any way for the way you are! All the best!