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How do I come out as nonbinary?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 29, 2018
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I would only tell a few closest friends at first so it is a little easier but I know coming out isn't always easy and you shouldn't be afraid to come out, sometimes people just do it and say 'hey I need to tell you something, I am non-binary' whereas others find it harder, you could always do it in a casual conversation or a conversation about dating or something and say when it comes to your turn say what you feel and if you don't feel comfortable doing so then you could find other ways of doing it, I am sure there are many other people who could give you some more advice on here, even ones who have been through the same as you
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 8, 2018
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Write down how you feel everyday. Every time you think of “proof” or a “reason” that you are, write it down. Start by bringing up nonbinary people in conversation and see how your friends and family react so you can feel out whether or not it is safe for you to come out at that time. Wait for when you feel you are safe and comfortable to say it and follow your own timeline. You know you best, so get in touch with what is best for you. Through this process that may be difficult, you will be able to tell who the people that truly love and support you are
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LittleNarwhals on Nov 11, 2018
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For anyone thinking about coming out as trans, safety is the most important thing to keep in mind. Wait for a time when it is physically, emotionally, professionally, and financially safe for you to tell people you're nonbinary. Since we live in such a gender binary focused world, many people will probably not understand. Be patient and assertive. It's less emotionally draining to keep resources on hand to answer repetitive questions rather than having to continually explain yourself. Some nonbinary people find it helpful to have a system involving pins, wristbands, or other attire to indicate their current pronouns if they change on a regular basis. It's often helpful to first come out to someone you know will be understanding and supportive and use them as an ally as you come out to others. It will take time for everyone in your life to grasp what you're telling them, so give them as well as yourself some grace. Self affirmation is very important in the face of rejection. Good luck!
Profile: RawPower73
RawPower73 on Nov 16, 2018
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When I first figured out I was non-binary, it was very challenging to think of how I would tell people. Prior to being able to talk about it, I made sure to affirm and validate myself. I understood that someone's opinion or lack of acceptance may be undoubtedly difficult, but that it had no hold on my journey to be my authentic self. I started by having a conversation about gender to gauge who I thought I may be able to tell first without it being a deal. I was honest with myself and knew that if the first person I told reacted negatively, it would be incredibly discouraging. Having a supportive person to come out to first really helped me to accept the thought that anyone who really cares about me or who I want to keep in my life would understand or come to understand me. I kept in mind that it may be hard to hear for some, but that I would be open and sincere about how much this meant to me and affected me. I've told most of the people in my life since. It was challenging and not all positive, but I knew it was important and right for me.
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Am3r1canDrag0n on Dec 20, 2018
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First figure out if you're telling everyone in a group setting or one on one. Then figure out if they know what non-binary is. If they do, it's easier to explain, if they don't, you might want to explain what it is, and where you are on the spectrum, before coming out. Be sure to be upfront, be honest, answer any questions they may/may not have. You might have to explain the difference between gender and sex too. be prepared for ranges of emotion, some people might get angry, some quiet, and some might be super curious to the point that some of the questions are a bit over the top. Whatever the case, remember that those who mind don't matter, and those who matter, don't mind.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 28, 2018
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Coming out in anyway can be tough. When you come out you need to be sure the timing is right and that you are safe and/or have a safe place to go to, coming out can really help your mental well being. Coming out can seem challenging and scary but once you do it it will be a big relief. When you come out it can sometimes be easier to tell everyone you want to tell all at once. It can be easy to over think coming out and how to come out. Coming out can definitely help with your stress.
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Anonymous on Dec 30, 2018
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Being nonbinary is a very real thing, so first off don't let others invalidate you. It is an important step in coming out to first, make sure you are in a safe environment. Safety is key in this formula! Then you can explain to them, that you feel comfortable that way. The comfort of feeling like you belong in your own skin that way. If the person cares, they should understand and accept you. And as all things go, it can take time. The person may be shocked, but don't let the initial shock scare you away, they usually come around. There will always be a community and people willing to support you
Profile: Poptheweezl1058
Poptheweezl1058 on Jan 3, 2019
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Make sure the person you are trying to come out to understands what non binary means, explain it in a way that does not scream it, for example you Could say "I read across a term earlier, nonbinary, it means..." Dress more gender neutral/suggest the idea gently without saying it You could style your hair differently or have it cut Make sure if you come out you wont come to any harm / you won't get hurt if you come out Make sure they know for definite they understand the terminology And when you are sure your ready for them to know, tell them Hope this helps -pop
Profile: Kai98
Kai98 on Jan 11, 2019
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Coming out is already difficult as it is, but coming out as nonbinary is something special. Society's mindset is very stubborn and ignorant, and therefore you should always be wary when attempting to do this. Of course whilst I say that you should also be aware that within society there are many people who would stand by you if you came out to them. It really depends on the person. So to the question, how do tou come out as nonbinary? Id suggest you sitting down with them with a nice warm cuppa and a few biscuits, and then calmly just saying it. As long as youre in a safe environment, there is nothing to be afraid of. You are you, and theres nothing you can do about that except either ignore it or embrace it. So well done for even taking this step towards further encouraging those close to you to embrace it
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LiamLight on Jan 19, 2019
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The most important thing to do is be prepared to explain, even through questions that may be insufferable and unintentionally offensive, the best way to help people understand is to explain thoroughly and without malice. If you feel safe coming out that's great, but I cannot stress enough that if you don't feel completely safe coming out, do not feel obligated or let anyone else force you into coming out. Coming out needs to be a deliberate process; something you do when YOU'RE ready, and only you know when you are ready. It's great that you ask this question, and i wish you luck in this process. Remember you always have people here to support you if the people in your real life don't live up to standard.
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