How can I explain to my friends that me being attracted to girls (without sounding rude or mean) doesn't necesarily mean I like them?
Maisie4y
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Oct 6, 2015
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Just because they like boys doesn't mean they're automatically attracted to every one of those that they see.
caringJoy50
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Oct 7, 2015
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Try saying "you like boys, and do you like every boy you see"
Anonymous
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Jan 5, 2016
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You could say that you love your friends platonically, but you may not want to be in a relationship with them.
Anonymous
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Mar 15, 2016
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Explain it to them as if you are in their shoes. Examples like "Well you're attracted to *gender*, but you don't like every one of that gender. Same for me. It's like having a type. Though you are my friend, I am not romantically attracted to you." If they have any friends of the same gender as the gender their attracted to, use them as an example.
Mia1
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Jul 4, 2016
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Use a comparison that will nake it easier for them to understand. Just as they aren't attracted to every man they meet, you aren't attracted to every woman.
Anonymous
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Aug 22, 2016
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Give them an example from their point of view, just because they're straight (assuming they are) doesn't mean they're attracted to all people of the opposite gender
ReggaanCoy
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Sep 26, 2016
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I have noticed for some time that I am attracted to girls, I can guarantee that my sexuality will not affect our friendship, me being attractive to girls doesn't mean that I physically attracted to any of you
UntilThen
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Jul 17, 2017
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Explain that in the same way that they're not attracted to everyone of the gender they are usually attracted to, you don't like every girl you see. This idea that you like all girls usually stems from people thinking orientation is all about sex. It may also be useful for you to explain to them that you don't want just anyone, you want a romantic partner who you can have a connection with.
Aayla
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Aug 26, 2019
LGBTQ+ Issues Expert
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You can make a comparison between your friendship with them and the friendship that you, or them, or anyone can have with boys. If straight boys and girls can be friends, why couldn't you be just friends with them? Or you could express your feelings to them in terms of seeing them like sisters.
Anonymous
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Dec 6, 2016
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I would explain that sexual identity is unique to every individual, like our personality. Sexuality is fluid and can't be put into a neat box. Sexual orientation is very personal and you don't have to justify who you like or don't like or why to anyone if you don't want to.
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