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Am I just imagining my attraction/gender identity?

Profile: LovingCat
LovingCat on Feb 1, 2015
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Chances are, you are not. It is true, however, that gender identity and sexual orientation/attraction are very fluid and can indeed shift over time. That can be because you are just made that way, or because you are going through puberty and your hormones sometimes can lead you to feel things you will not necessarily be feeling for the rest of your life, or there may be other factors that make your orientation or identity change. Anyway, you need to know and keep in mind that you are a living being and change is therefore natural. That said, only you can answer to yourself. And only you have the right to. Try to leave out all the potential influences you might be under, if you have doubts about who you are and what you feel. Concentrate and look inside you, there lives the truth. And always remember that your feeling and emotions are valid, and so are your identity and orientation whether they stay that way forever or change over time.
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Profile: CarinaNicole
CarinaNicole on Feb 2, 2015
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It may be more of a convincing yourself than an imaginary ideal. As humans, we crave acceptance, and we will fit into a binary to be accepted. If it's something outside the societal "norm," we may feel more obligated to repress how we feel. So no, you are not imagining it. You are more than likely just trying to fit it. True self acceptance will show you who you really are.
Profile: TheDonge
TheDonge on Mar 11, 2015
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I don't think so! Sexuality and gender identity are both fluid and can be whatever you identify with. If you're attracted to someone of same gender identity, that's completely fine and not something to be worried about! As we mature, our feelings and emotions change and grow, and sometimes that means being attracted to new gender identities, and that's fine! Only you know what you identify is, and no one else.
Profile: peacefulSummer36
peacefulSummer36 on May 17, 2015
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Doubtful. When I first wondered about my attraction to women, I thought I was just imagining it. It wasn't until I actually experimented that I was for sure I liked women as well as men. The easiest way to find out if what you're feeling is to just experiment and see if it's just curiosity or if it's something you'd like to pursue.
Profile: Waterbear
Waterbear on Jun 14, 2015
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Attraction and gender identity are all in the brain anyway, so that's kind of a moot question. It's not like they're a physical object that you can pick up and put in your backpack.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 23, 2015
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I do not think that you are imagining your attraction, nor your gender identity. You are who you are, and if identifying as something else is what makes you happy, then that's all that matters.
Profile: IamtheGuardianAngel
IamtheGuardianAngel on Nov 24, 2015
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Odds are you're not. You are what you identify as and if that changes over time, that's fine too. Sexuality and gender can be fluid. And if it helps at all, the binaries were invented anyway, because science needed to classify things. The criteria used to split humans into male and female, including chromosomes, rarely are all true anymore. Humans are sexually monomorphic, which means that, unlike monkeys, the only real difference between the sexes is the genitalia (including the prostate or lack thereof). Not even hormones. They have both in different proportions. Anyways. The only purpose of complementary genitalia is procreation. Ergo, gender is a myth, and sex is also almost a myth.
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No, I do not think so. I do not know how it is possible to imagine an attraction or gender, it's just who you are.
Profile: Mia1
Mia1 on Jul 5, 2016
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You are the expert on you. Trust yourself. There's nothing wrong or "fake" about questioning your gender. And remember that nothing is set in stone. If how you feel changes, that's okay too.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 12, 2016
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No you're not, Gender Dysphoria is very real and affects a lot of people. And attraction, is just as valid, you can't control who you like.
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