Am I an asexual? I lack sexual attraction but not sexual drive.
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Anonymous
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Feb 4, 2015
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Asexuality is defined as the lack of sexual attraction. So yes, you could identify as an asexual even if you still experience sex drive. Someone once told me behavior is not orientation, so whether or not you have sex, enjoy sex, masturbate or are repulse by the idea of sex does not change the orientation you identify with. If you feel comfortable with identifying as an asexual then go for it! Many asexuals are sex positive and might have sex drives of any level (from super high to almost non-existent). Personally, I describe it as “having a compass with no north†since you might experience a desire for sex, get arouse, etc. but they don’t “point’ to anyone in particular or to any gender in particular.
Nicobaka
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Apr 12, 2015
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Yes, the only thing that defines an asexual is their lack of sexual attraction towards anyone. Plenty of asexual have a sex drive, and partake in sexual acts and enjoy them, they're just not attracted sexually to any person.
Aayla
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Aug 6, 2019
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Sexual drive can also be taken care of by ourselves, without involving other people: there are many asexuals who do this, and they are still asexual based on the fact that they don't experience sexual attraction.
neverendingstoryteller
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Jun 7, 2015
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According to the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, asexual refers to "somebody who does not experience sexual attraction" however it is up to you to decide whether or not asexual applies to you! The asexual identity encompasses a wide range of 'grey-a' identities, as there is no one way to be asexual! AVEN is a great resource for people who questioning whether they are asexual, as well as providing information to family, friends, and significant others of people who identify as asexual.
therandomhyperone
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Apr 18, 2015
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well I think so, I am asexual and don't experience either but asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction but that may not necessarily mean lack of sexual drive as well. and its your sexuality its whatever you want it to be
OliverC
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May 27, 2015
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Yep! That is exactly the definition of asexual. There are plenty of ace (short for asexual) people you can connect with, and websites like AVEN where you can read about others' experiences. Asexuality is also a spectrum, and you may find that there's an even more specific label that you jive with.
Anonymous
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Dec 10, 2015
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asexuality is just the lack of sexual attraction. Sexual drive is a bodily function and does not make you less asexual.
Millichidulinas
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Jul 12, 2016
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You could be demisexual. A demisexual person is a person that feel sexual attaction only if the other person is well known. You could be asexual as well, it depends on you. No body can tell you if you're asexual or not. You're the only one that can understand it.
Anonymous
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Sep 20, 2016
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Asexuality is typically defined as the lack of sexual attraction. Some asexuals do have a sex drive but they just have no desire to act on that with someone.
Anonymous
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Oct 11, 2016
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It sounds like you may be aromantic. However, don't label yourself unless you're confident in Yourself
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