I've not been able to cry for a very long time, and I really need to. Is there a method to induce crying and letting it all out ?
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EspritDuKaren68
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May 2, 2018
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Journaling might work, but why not just accept that you are not ready to let go now. When you are ready, the tears will flow. I think on a deeper level, you are aware that if you cry, issues that might be repressed will surface. And it might not be your time to face those issues yet.
Callipiphan
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May 18, 2018
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Yes, however it is really hard to do unless you have experienced so deeply hard and sad things. I dont recommend it. Feel free to message me if you have further questions.
CaringMike
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May 27, 2018
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Try to listen to music and songs associated with significant moments from your past. Try and recall past moments of loss which can trigger a release of emotion and unresolved grief. This can be very therapeutic at times and help you get in touch with your feelings.
DeaconBlues
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Jun 6, 2018
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If I need to cry, I allow myself the space to let it all out. By spending some time alone, so that I may cry, pray, and do whatever I need to do in private, I feel much more able to resume my daily activities.
wishfulCaramel27
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Oct 14, 2018
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I go for a walk to clear my head of everything and think about what has me sad. I remind myself of the small detail and push the crying. This usually helps me because I am able to cry and when I start crying it's like the gates open and I am not able to stop them. The thing for me is being alone because I don't like when people see me cry it makes me feel weird or weak I guess you could day. This way it is my own private time and I don't have to worry about anything or anyone else at that time.
Returncontrol2u
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Jan 11, 2019
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Crying, in my opinion, is like being overwhelmed with sadness. It seems to me emotional control dampens this tendency to cry. some would consider it a good thing to not cry too much. Others don't cry and think there is something wrong with them. I believe if you don't cry, you probably have not been experiencing feelings that overwhelm you. I used to think I have to cry to be happy, but as I have aged I have come to realize that crying by itself does noting to heal me. Many people who cry let the feeling go because they cried about it. More of a marker in time rather than the actual release. If you release the feelings without crying, you may not need the marker. You may be one of the lucky few who understands emotional control and release enough to not be overwhelmed anymore by the smaller feelings we get day to day. It is an important distinction between handling your feelings to not cry and not crying because you have closed yourself off. If you are asking how to cry, be sure to answer the question, do I need to cry, first. This will be a mental check on your emotional state and possibly eliminate a worry that is not useful.
DragonView2
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Jul 12, 2019
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It helped me to go to therapy. Finding someone kind, safe, compassionate, can help a lot. It also helps me to ask the other person for permission to cry, since I used to be punished, criticized, ignored and mistreated for crying. Sometimes we don't cry because we feel too anxious.
It can also help to focus on what you felt when you were in suffering while you narrate it, and to try to describe everything as clearly and detailedly as possible, trying to be compassionate to yourself as you do, as if you were a little girl in pain telling you what happened.
Anonymous
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Aug 4, 2019
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If it's something specific that I feel the need to cry about, I tend to focus my thoughts on that event or subject of worry and just let the emotions surrounding it come out. It can be overwhelming at first to just let yourself feel sadness, but it can also be a really healing experience. Crying is where you can get all your emotions out freely, and there's always a sense of calm I feel after having a good cry. Sad music helps a lot too, although I don't always need it to start crying. It can really push you to start crying if you're really struggling to though.
MommaBear18
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Aug 23, 2019
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Personally, when I feel like I need a good cry, I like to watch Titanic. It is one of my favorite movies and also always gets some tears out of me. Another thing I do is watch or read sad stories, especially about animals. That always does the trick for me! If animals aren't your thing though, I think that there is a lot to be said for sad music. Luckily, almost every genre has some sad songs. Looking up a playlist on YouTube or Spotify, or even just some lists of sad songs online can really do the trick. Crying is healthy, so I hope you can have a great, healthy cry!
CalculatedDoom
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Jan 19, 2020
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I would recommend sitting in a private room, putting on something sad (movie, music, etc), and relaxing. Find comfort in letting emotions go. Another recommendation is finding something you may find passion in, and practicing it, thinking about a future with said passion. Try going through old items that hold memories, it may trigger emotions and allow them to come out the way you need them to. Throughout these activities please remain as safe as possible! Make sure to have some tissues, a blanket and some comforting items within reach to make sure everything remains under control. Stay safe!
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