I've not been able to cry for a very long time, and I really need to. Is there a method to induce crying and letting it all out ?
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Anonymous
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Jul 21, 2016
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Think of all the things that people have done to you. All of the hurt and pain you've been through, all of the happiness you've experienced. Think of it all and let all of those emotions and feeling drown you until you aren't able to control it. Don't think about it too much that's why you cant cry, you think too much. Don't try to control what you are trying to feel let it flow over you.
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Anonymous
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Aug 7, 2016
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if you can't cry then scream, scream at the loudest voice!
you can go boxing too, i tried it and it helps!
Anonymous
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Sep 9, 2016
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Let all that's inside you out on a paper..write it down in a journal or diary or as a letter.. Writing about it will make you feel light and also you'll be going through each and very emotions of yours in the form of our own words, try doing this.. It might be helpful😊

SadyaKarni22
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Jan 24, 2019
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First find a private, peaceful place for yourself to sit.
Clear your head of distractions.
Listen to sad songs and music.
Read sad stories, quotes on internet.
Think of a sad happening happened with you in past or think of some sad heartbreaking incidents and imagine yourself in.
Act like you're being filmed on a camera and you have got the scene to cry your worst.
Recall someone who has died and was dear to you.
Watch sad videos on YouTube.
Think deeply about what is making you sad.
Think about all the losses related to these.

Remina
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Jul 16, 2016
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Different things could induce crying. When I want to cry, I normally put on sad music, which enables me to cry. Some people cry while cutting onions. i don't recommend the onion one because they smell bad but if you really need to cry, try that?
Anonymous
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Jul 31, 2016
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Crying is very healthy. Sometimes, you just have to let the tears come on their own. Forcing it may make it worse.

ThankYouForLettingMeTryingToHelp
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Oct 20, 2019
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I have had the same question for a very long time, and the same need as well.
What has worked for me? Not refraining me for crying when the urgency came. The time I was not looking for the tears, they arrived.
Once I was in therapy talking about an issue really hard for me. I had already developped a feeling of confidence with my therapist, which made that particular session even better: I could open my heart. And when I did, when I was to able to hear aloud my "problems", I was sad. I felt compassion for myself, same as I woul feel for a best friend. I was hearing to me, and I felt pity for me, I wanted this perso ("I, myself") to feel better, I wanted the pain to dissappear.
It is still difficult to me to cry, even when I need it so badly to liberate myself. But I have found that, in my case, tears only arrived when I feel myself heard, understood and accompanied in my feelings.

kindRose56
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Oct 26, 2017
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I have found that when I don't talk to someone and I hold things back, that is when I feel like I just need to cry and let it all out. Sometimes talking about it helps me let go and process things that are bothering me. I find comfort in talking to friends and if I have been holding things back for a long time then that is usually when I end up crying. If you don't have any friends to go to, seven cups has so many amazing people who will listen to you. There are also many different phone services if you prefer to talk over message. Everyone is different so just find out what helps you the most.
Anonymous
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Aug 24, 2016
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Yes, it is never good to keep it bottled up inside. It's best to let it out because sometimes holding it in can cause you to feel trapped within yourself and cause a larger build up of stress

VeeStarr
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Aug 25, 2016
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Everyone has different ways of showing their emotions. We also heal at different paces. When it is time to cry, the tears will fall. Forced crying, can have a negative outcome. I say; if you feel like crying, dont hold it in. And if you aren't able to cry, allow yourself and your body to work at a pace that is suitable.

Pleiades924
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Jul 29, 2016
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Try to think of something that makes you sad. Think of someone you care about getting hurt. Watch a sad movie. Listen to a sad song. Put yourself into an emotional state.
Anonymous
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Jan 25, 2018
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well, you could listen to emotional songs {focus on the lyrics :p }or you could watch any tear jerking movies with a box of tissues by the side......most extreme case ,just use the onions

sereneHoliday44
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May 17, 2017
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It is okay to feel you want to cry but even if you are not been able to cry it is okay every person has a different threshold and so it varies from person to person. As to letting things out you may like to talk with some one or a professional listener like here so that you are relieved of your feelings even without crying.
Anonymous
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Jul 30, 2016
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When i just want to cry but i can't I listen sad songs, it bring all of the pain and i can't hold it anymore

avanef
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Jan 26, 2017
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Honestly, sometimes it depends on the situation and how much it hurts you. I have had moments where I am at home on the phone talking with someone about something between us and I can cry a lot, but the second I see them, I can't shed a single tear. It's weird but I guess my body calms down when I know what's happening in front of me rather than something that's being though about. You know? But eventually when something hits you emotionally, you'll start to cry it's how the body and mind copes with those kinds of things.
Anonymous
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Aug 5, 2016
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You can talk to yourself everything you have suffered. Be honest with your thoughts and your feelings. You can also watch some anime which is sad but have a positive meaning. I suggest Colourful, a great anime :) Hope you can have the best solution
Anonymous
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Oct 13, 2016
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Scream in a pillow or go in a empty field and let it all out. Or You can vent to one of 7 cups listeners :)

struggler64
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Jan 6, 2017
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I have had that issue too, and I have a number of movies in my video library that I call "emotional laxatives." Certain scenes in them often provoke the tears. If not, all I have to do is look hard at my life, and that oughta do the trick. You might want to look inside and see what stops you from crying. That is frequently a big clue to why you can't cry.

RhoenH
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Aug 12, 2017
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Sometimes writing about our experiences is able to let us feel those emotions, talking to a trusted someone can also help, just examine yourself and find out if you can what is keeping you from crying, are you afraid to be vulnerable?

QuietHawk
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May 28, 2018
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Move from your mind into your heart. Find someplace quiet where you will not be disturbed and review all the good and traumatic events you've been through in your life. Imagine the person you were at the time of the occurrence, the age you were, how you looked and recall how it made you feel. Remember with compassion.
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