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Why is my teenage daughter so rude to me?

Profile: pointome
pointome on Aug 31, 2015
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As a teenager myself, I can say that the cause may be 2 things - 1. You. You may sometimes be rude ro her, not even realising it. Everyday small things you don't notice may make Your daughter act that way towards you. Try paying attention to those moments, for example, when she drops a glass and it breaks, you say "That happens to everybody!" and help her clean up, instead of screaming at her. 2 - something outside of the family life. She may have just lost a friend, she's doing bad at school. You could try and help her. That's what I can think of :)
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Profile: aparnakher
aparnakher on Mar 18, 2015
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Well I am answering this question as the teenage daughter i hope thats okay. the thing is, we don't want to be rude or anything in particular...we are at an age where our hormones scream and shout inside us. we tend to care more about ourselves and our friends and the *glittery* stuff that usually goes away with age. We realise that we are being rude most of the times, but we don't say it out loud because our egos are high during teenage. We know you love and care about us, and we reciprocate it equally. :) Sorry and thank you, dear moms
Profile: bubblingLove76
bubblingLove76 on Jul 21, 2015
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Some teenagers are rude to everyone. Try not to take it personally. She will grow out of this stage and become your very best friend. Sincerely, A former rude daughter.
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Anonymous on Aug 17, 2015
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She could be acting out because she wants to seek more attention from you and needs some sort of emotional help or support. No one just acts out because they enjoy it. Maybe you could try asking her what has been bothering her and listening to her compassionately, and asking her if she needs help with anything or would like to discuss anything with you. Just remember to be compassionate, caring and loving when you are listening and you will begin to understand why she is truly acting out and build a stronger connection between you 2, built on communication and trust.
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Anonymous on Oct 11, 2015
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IDK if this is the problem, but my mom and I don't get along and the reason I don't respect her is she doesn't respect me. She thinks that because she's the mom, she's in control and anytime I have an opinion, she shuts it down, because it's a threat to her power. Obviously, this isn't a contentious thing. Next time this happens, actually think about what it might have been that you did and don't react right away. When we are angry, the reasonable part of our brain shuts down so take a break, do something else, and then, when you know you are calm, think about the situation. Was there anything you could've done better? Don't know if this is helpful, cuz I don't know the situation, but this is my take on it from what I know.
Profile: Polyethanase
Polyethanase on Jun 17, 2015
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Other than the common answer of teenage hormones, there is also a large psychological aspect to it as well. Personally, I never got along with my mother because she constricted me to her. However this may be the opposite for other girls. Perhaps they desire more affection, but lash out in order to get it. It's a very tricky situation.
Profile: Oceanlove
Oceanlove on Jul 7, 2015
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It's hard to answer without knowing all the ins and outs. Maybe she feels a certain way or maybe she's just hormonal. Talking with her may help. I went through this with my mum. I didn't realise how rude I was being, but my mum also didn't realise how some things she did effected me. She would try to talk to me about it all but she'd get so emotional and that would cause her to say it in a way where it all seemed like my fault and like she had done nothing wrong. So try and sympathise with your daughter, it could be something you didn't realise was upsetting her. But a big part of the teenage years is hormones and for some reason they're pretty hard to deal with. There could be stress at school or something else in her life. I realise it must be very hard for you too, try and explain that to her in a calm way which puts your pint across effectively.
Profile: kindheart14
kindheart14 on Oct 9, 2015
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As a teenager they really face many challenges both inside and outside the family. They are trying very hard to cope up with those challenges. Teenage is the stage where they usually learn more about how to manage their emotions, attitude and personal care. So whichever things they face in teenage they see it as a challenge because they are mentally and physically preparing themselves to be strong. Even small things can look bigger to them and so is your action towards your daughter. She doesn't expect you to treat her the same way you used to do before and she doesn't know how to express it to you either. So please don't worry dear mom. Your daughter is always your daughter and her love is always the same, she may be rude without knowing that she hurts you because of teenage and eventually she will realize it.
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Anonymous on Nov 16, 2015
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Have you tried seeing her side? Sometimes we feel very cornered, like we don't have a voice. It makes us lash out or feel defensive. Maybe something is going on at school. The best thing to do would be to talk to her about it
Profile: beautifulParadise07
beautifulParadise07 on May 31, 2015
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Actually there are many factors. Respect begets respect. If you wanted yiur child to have a respect on you, try to respect him/her first. So that your child can have a model on what does it feel to be respected and how does it feel to put on a respect to someone. Second, maybe you haven't given him time and presence that's why he is away from your feelings. the third is that you failed to discipline him/her as a child. All I can advice now is to have heart to heart talk to your child and ask him/her if she has a problem with you. :) All things work together through communication. :)
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