Why don't they understand me?

Everyone's different and has had different experiences in their lives. They might not understand you because they haven't experienced something for themselves. It could also be hard for them to understand something very different from what they're used to thinking or something that goes against their beliefs.

You know, what every person wants secretly? A house, a pet and someone who understands them. Unfortunately, it's not always so easy. Sadly, we don't always get what we want. Sometimes, things are entirely different from what we think. Sometimes, the other person is trying their best to understand but it's just hard. Sometimes, the other person isn't even trying. Sometimes, the other person thinks they understand you well enough and it's just you who isn't satisfied. Whatever the reason may be, having someone who actually understands you is a blessing. There are lots of reasons behind someone not understanding, like I have said. To add more, sometimes, they give up without even trying thinking you are too complex to understand. Sometimes- may be the most negative one- they think you are not worth trying to understand. Whatever the reason is, the thing is, it's very difficult to find someone who actually understands. We can't do anything about that, however, what we can do is try to understand ourselves. Try to be the person we want for us, ourselves. Why find it in someone else? Why not try to find that in ourselves?

It’s hard to put ourselves in other people’s shoes. Many believe that their situation is similar to yours which may not be the case, and solutions that worked for them may not be right for you. It’s important to talk to someone who can show you unbiased support and show you a new way to look at your issue. Differences of lifestyles can work as a barrier to understanding other people’s struggles and when looking for advice, people from different backgrounds have different ways for approaching a problem. The person you are trying to communicate with may be confused and it’s important that you calmly and simply explain where you are coming from, and ask to see their perspective as well so you can come to a consensus on how to solve the issue.

They don't understand you because A) they haven't had the same experience as you, and B) because they can't physically imagine what you are going through. Whether it be abuse or drug problems, or simply a relationship, it is really hard to go through those. Sometimes you just have to find the right person to understand you, and stick with them. Whether this be a really good friend, a counselor, or someone else, you have to find that one special person who can really believe you and trust you. That is why they don't understand you. The best thing you can do, is to understand yourself

Everyone is unique and has unique experiences. No one is going to understand you 100%. It’s part of what makes you you. Don’t be discouraged. If you feel like you’re misunderstood, you should try communicating your feelings. Tell people what you’re going through and how it makes you feel. Tell them what you like and why you enjoy it. Tell them whatever it is you feel they don’t understand. That being said, ultimately it is up to the other person to choose to listen. Try not to let it get you down if one person doesn’t put forth the effort to get to know you for you. Not everyone will. But the more you try, the more people will be willing to meet your expectations.

Hi and thanks for the question! Before I answer the question, my question to you is, "Who are they?" This is a very general question requesting a very detailed answer, and that is not possible since I don't know who you are referring to as "they". Are "they" your parents, siblings, perhaps your children or grandchildren? Maybe "they" are your teachers or your friends. Do you see where I am going here? I am trying to figure out who "they" are. So, before you ask a question regarding "they", you need to be specific. Yes, I have been quoting the word, not to be mean, but to show you how general this question is. Thank you and have a nice day!

My dad say's "nothing is stranger than people." It's true. Sometimes people just don't take the time to appreciate just how amazing you are. The best thing you can do is understand yourself. If you enjoy something, but they don't, do it anyway for yourself. If you like something but they don't and they give you hate comments- ignore them and kill them with kindness. A sweet smile at someone who has just thrown an insult your way is the best comeback you can give because it shows that you have not been affected by it. If these people are your friends and family, then it's a little harder to ignore - I get that. My dad doesn't understand me. But, in the end, I realised it doesn't matter. I know who I am. You know who you are, and that's the main thing.

I don't think anyone can give a concrete answer to this. Because I think that if everyone understood you, you wouldn't see those right few people who are actually meant for you. As we grow old, we gain experience and I would like to believe that this experience, no matter good or bad, they act as a filter which helps us see the one or two people who are meant to understand you honestly and completely out of a 100 people without pretense. The journey to that point is often lined with loneliness and that sucks. But that's life. And life is often ironic if nothing else. I can only say that don't stop communicating or looking out for those people - at one point, they'll find you or you'll find them. This is my perspective, so - I hope it helped even if it's the tiniest of bits.

Many people may not understand you because they themselves haven't lived through the same things, or lack empathy for those who have. This can certainly bring up some hard emotions, especially if these people are close to you. Some strategies to work through this may include trying to talk with those who don't understand so that you can maybe explain what it is they might be missing. If all else fails, then you must consider how valuable you are, and whether this person sees that in you. Would someone who sees the value in you fail to hear you explain what they don't understand? Do you think it's run its course? Or are you willing to explain again, and perhaps come at it better prepared?

People often cannot understand things they are not going through or have forgotten. Clear communication might help bring them back up to speed.