Why do my parents not let me get help?

Some parents go through denial, where they can't let themselves believe there's anything wrong because they think that'd make them a bad parent or a failure. Some parents might have different beliefs that other things can help. Other parents simply might not understand the situation or what might be wrong. For example if someone's child has depression or bipolar disorder, they might not understand one of those and take it too lightly or too seriously. I definitely suggest asking them whenever you get a chance!

Sometimes parents can feel threatened at the fact they cannot help you as well as someone else. They want it as their responsibility as parents, to help you themselves.

Sometimes people fear therapy, when it's really just an avenue for mental health. Just as when we get a cold or the flu, we visit our medical doctor. It's one in the same.

They are in denial there's a problem or if they do fear what will come out of you getting help and believe it can be worked on without issues coming out in the open. They also may see it as a phase you're going through that will change.

Your parents are probably scared. Scared of change, scared of how it's going to affect their lives, affect your life.. or maybe afraid of what others will think. Or it could be out of pride. Maybe they think you don't need help. What if they think you can handle it on your own? If you recognize you need help, there's a good chance you really do.

Sometimes parents believe that you dont truly need professional help. They believe they can help you by themself sometimes it can be very difficult to wonder why they do this.

My parents used to not let me get help with certain things as well. Sometimes I think parents are in denial about what is actually going on and need their eyes opened. I know once my parents realized I was actually sick and things were just bad they realized that the help I was asking for wasn't for attention. And then I got better.

There are many reasons for this, but one of the key ones is that deep down they probably want to be the ones to help. They hopefully agreed to take on the challenge to support you any way they can. When they hear you want to find help elsewhere, it's like saying they failed. That said, they may not be qualified to help in certain situations, but talking to them may provide them comfort.

It will have something to do with the way they were brought up. If they cannot see you need it, perhaps find new ways of showing them - even if you go as far as creating an informative powerpoint.

Not to bring your parents down or anything - but they could be in denial or just not want to accept that you need someone else to help you get through what you're going through. That definitely isn't fair to you - especially if you want to get help. Luckily we have many outlets either by phone, internet or even places of business where you can go get the help you'd like with total confidentiality.