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Hey, I'm Kendall. I'm really glad you found me on 7 cups! I love to help people as well as travel, working out, listening to music, and hang out with friends and family.
I'm here, ready to listen judgement free! Just send a message whether I'm on or offline and I'll be there for you, always.
Remember you are NOT alone in this, I will be here to support and listen to you! Coming on here to connect with a complete stranger is such a brave thing and you should be beyond proud of yourself.
I have gone through a lot of things in my life! Some of them being loss of a loved one, breakups, self harm, eating disorders, alcohol abuse, and abuse. I can relate to a lot of things, and if I can't, I will always do my best to understand you. (I dont have much experience with anxiety, but I'm sure a great listener will be able to help you out!)
No matter what your past is, what you've said, what you've done, I will be here for you. Your voices deserve to be heard and I plan on listening!
“And hard times are good in their own way, too. Because the only way you can achieve true happiness is if you experience true sadness as well. It's all about light and shade. Balance.”
"Life has a way of kicking us when we’re down. And just when we think we can’t fall any lower, we get kicked again. But it’s important to remember that setbacks, failures, and tragedy are a part of life. Whether we manage to find joy and success in the daily struggle of life is largely dependent on our ability to persevere through even the toughest adversity without ever giving up."

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Depression resources and references
Depression Support / by KendallNichole
Last post
 August 9th, 2016
...See more Hola amazing depression community, I hope you all had a fantastic New Years and holidays! I was searching around and stumbled upon some great resources for depressed teens that I think could help a lot. A common thing for depression is not being completely informed about what it is, which makes it harder to help yourself or anyone you know struggling with depression. Now, these links are aimed for teens, but teens are not the only ones that can look at them and be useful to!   General information about teen depression - http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/depression.html - Specifically directed towards teenagers, this article talks about the causes of teenage depression and offers a depression quiz. http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/conditions/depression-teens -Learn how to recognize teen depression, deal with adolescent pressures, and find treatment and help. http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=education_brochures_just_a_mood -Fact sheet for young people helps you figure out whether you have a mood disorder such as teen depression.  Getting help for teenage depression http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/change.aspx- Learn what you can do to improve your mental health and deal with teen depression. Includes stories about other teens and how they overcame problems.  http://www.teen-moods.net/ – Online depression support community for teens. Includes forums, personal stories, and a list of emergency helplines.  http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=wellness_personal_wellness_tools – Workbook for helping you cope with and recover from depression. Includes information on how to put together your own “wellness plan.” Teen suicide prevention National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – Suicide prevention telephone hotline funded by the U.S. government. Provides free, 24-hour assistance. 1-800-273-TALK (8255). National Hopeline Network – Toll-free U.S. telephone number offering 24-hour suicide crisis support. 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433). Childline – UK free and confidential helpline at 0800 1111 for kids and teens offering 24-hour support. Kids Help Phone – Canada counseling service at 1-800-668-6868 for kids and teens under 20 years of age. Lifeline – Australian 24-hour crisis support line at 13 11 14. Befrienders Worldwide – A directory of helplines and suicide prevention organizations around the world.   Hope these resources are useful for all of you!
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Everything you need to know about Social Anxiety
Anxiety Support / by KendallNichole
Last post
 August 25th, 2016
...See more What is social anxiety? : Social anxiety is a discomfort or a fear when a person is in a social interaction that involves a concern of being judged or evaluated by others. It’s normal to feel nervous in some social situations. But in social anxiety disorder, everyday interactions cause significant anxiety, fear, self-consciousness, and embarrassment because you fear being judged by others.   Shyness and discomfort in certain social situations doesn’t always mean you have social anxiety. Comfort in social situations depends on your personality and life experiences. Some people are naturally shy, and others are more outgoing.   Emotional and behavioral symptoms Fear of situations in which you may be judged Worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself Concern that you’ll offend someone Intense fear of interacting or talking to strangers Fear that others will notice that you look anxious Fear of physical symptoms that may cause you embarrassment, such as blushing, sweating, trembling or having a shaky voice Avoiding doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment Avoiding situations where you might be the center of attention Having anxiety in anticipation of a feared activity or event Spending time after a social situation analyzing your performance and indetifying flaws in your interactions Expecting the worst possible consequences from a negative experience during a social situation   For children, anxiety about ineracting with adults or peers may be shown by crying, having temper tantrums, clinging to parents or refusing to speak in social situations.   Performance type of social anxiety disorder is when you experience intense fear and anxiety only during speaking or performing in public, but not in other types of social situations. Physical Symptoms Fast heartbeat Upset stomach or nausea Trouble catching your breath Dizziness or lightheadedness Confusion or feeling “out of body” Diarrhea Muscle tension   Avoiding normal social situations Using a public bathroom Interacting with strangers Eating in front of others Making eye contact Initiating conversation Dating Attending parties or social gatherings Missing work or school Entering a room in which people are already seated Returning items to a stoor   Social anxiety disorder symptoms can change over time. They may flare up if you’re facing a lot of stress or demands. Although avoiding anxiety-producing situations may make you feel better in the short term, your anxiety is likely to persist over the long term if you don’t get treatment.   When to see a doctor See your doctor or mental health provider if you fear and avoid normal social situations because they cause embarrassment, worry, or panic. If this type of anxiety disrupts your life, causes severe stress, and affects your faily activities, you may have social anxiety disorder or another mental health condition that requires treatment to get better.   Causes Inherited traits. Anxiety disorder tends to run in families. However, it isn’t entirely clear on how much this may be due to genetics and how much is due to learned behavior. Brain structure. A structure in the brain called the amygdala may play a role in controlling the fear response. People who have an overactive amygdala may have a heightened fear response, causing increased anxiety in social situations. Environment. Social anxiety disorder may be learned behavior. That is, you may develop the condition after witnessing anxious behaviors of others. In addition, there may be an association between social anxiety disorder and parents who are more controlling or protective of their children.   Risk factors Social anxiety disorder is one of the most common mental disorders. It usually begins in early to midteens, although it can sometimes start earlier in childhood or in adulthood.   Several factors can increase the risk of developing social anxiety disorder, including:   Family history. You’re more likely to develop social anxiety disorder if your biological parents or siblings have the condition. Negative experiences. Children who experience teasing, bullying, rejection, ridicule or humiliation may be more prone to social anxiety disorder. In addition, other negative events in life, such as family conflict or sexual abuse, may be associated with social anxiety disorder. Temperament. Children who are shy, timid, withdrawn or restrained when facing new situations or people may be at greater risk. New social or work demands. Meeting new people, giving a speech in public or making an important work presentation may trigger social anxiety disorder symptoms for the first time. These symptoms usually have their roots in adolescence, however. Having a health condition that draws attention. Facial disfigurement, stuttering, Parkinson's disease and other health conditions can increase feelings of self-consciousness and may trigger social anxiety disorder in some people. Complications Left untreated, social anxiety disorder may run your life. Anxieties can interfere with work, school, relationships or enjoyment of life. Social anxiety disorder can cause: Low self-esteem Trouble being assertive Negative self-talk Hypersensitivity to criticism Poor social skills Isolation and difficult social relationships Low academic and employment achievement Substance abuse, such as drinking too much alcohol Suicide or suicide attempts Other anxiety disorders, major depressive disorder, substance abuse problems and certain other mental health disorders can often occur with social anxiety disorder.   What to expect from your doctor A doctor or mental health provider may ask: Does fear of embarrassment cause you to avoid doing things or speaking to people? Do you avoid activities in which you are the center of attention? Would you say that being embarrassed or looking stupid is among your worst fears? When did you first notice these symptoms? When are your symptoms most likely to occur? Does anything seem to make your symptoms better or worse? How are your symptoms affecting your life, including your work and personal relationships? Do you ever have symptoms when you're not being observed by others? Have any of your close relatives had similar symptoms? Have you been diagnosed with any medical conditions? Have you been treated for other psychiatric symptoms or mental illness in the past? If yes, what type of therapy was most beneficial? Have you ever thought about harming yourself or others? Do you drink alcohol or use illegal drugs? If so, how often?   Coping and support These coping methods may help ease your anxiety: Reach out to friends and family members Join a local or Internet-based support group Join a group that offers opportunities to improve communication and public speaking skills, such as Toastmasters International Do pleasurable activities, such as hobbies, when you feel anxious Over time, these coping methods can help control your symptoms and prevent a relapse. Remind yourself that you can get through anxious moments, that your anxiety is short-lived, and that the negative consequences you worry about so much rarely come to pass.   Prevention There's no way to predict what will cause someone to develop an anxiety disorder in the first place, but you can take steps to reduce the impact of symptoms if you're anxious: Get help early. Anxiety, like many other mental health conditions, can be harder to treat if you wait. Keep a journal. Keeping track of your personal life can help you and your mental health provider identify what's causing you stress and what seems to help you feel better. Prioritize issues in your life. You can reduce anxiety by carefully managing your time and energy. Avoid unhealthy substance use. Alcohol and drug use and even caffeine or nicotine use can cause or worsen anxiety. If you're addicted to any of these substances, quitting can make you anxious. If you can't quit on your own, see your doctor or find a treatment program or support group to help you.   I hope this helps you really understand social anxiety! I can only imagine how hard this must be to struggle with, but help and treatment is possible. Also, feel free to connect 1-1 with a listener, as we would always love to help and support you in any way we can.  
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