When do i get to stop making everyone else happy?

My personal opinion is that you need to stop trying to make everyone happy, when you get hurt, or about to get hurt. I think it's fair that you want to make everyone happy, cause who doesn't want everyone to be happy? But if you eventually gets hurt by other peoples action because they do not care about how much you help them, then I think it's time to stop working your ass off to please them. Helping other people might be a really good thing, indeed. But to care about others, you gotta care about yourself too. If you get nothing back but shit, then it's time to stop.

It's impossible to make everyone happy, because we're the same persons. You get to stop when you realize you put an impossible task on yourself that is un achievable and realize it's unnecessary and dumb to try and make everyone happy. No matter what there is always someone who isn't happy, and there's nothing you can do to it.

You can only make everyone else around you happy when you yourself are happy and in a good place. You need to prioritise your own happiness and wellbeing. If you are not in a good place, you won’t be any help to those around you. Putting your own needs first is a very responsible step to take. This shows maturity and understanding for wellness. It is like in a plane they always tell you to fit your own life jacket and mask before helping others. It is the same principle, help yourself be happy, before helping those around you.

Right now. This moment. Right when your eyes hit these words your obligation to make other people happy, stops. Everything that led up to you believing that you had to do whatever you could to make other people happy, is forgotten, in the past, exposed as a lie. Everything you believe about yourself and about how you should function in this world is erased and you start fresh. You have a clean slate. you get to pick what you do now. You get to pick who you invest in, yourself or other people. Right now you have the control over your life back in your own hands. Every choice you make is your own now, not motivated by manipulation and lies from your past, but by truths you know about yourself. You are valuable. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of happiness. You are strong. You are in control of your own decisions. You know what makes you happy and you are able to do what needs to be done.

As soon as you decide to. One thing that needs to be learned the hard way is that you CANNOT make everyone happy. It's just not possible. But what you can do is focus on your happiness. If you try and make sure that you are happy and the best person you can be then, you will have a positive impact on those around you which will ripple outwards. So instead of worrying about other people's happiness- worry about your own. It will be hard to start with because automatic instinct is to help others but, it will be so worth it.

You stop when making everyone else happy, get's in the way of your own health. You should always try your best to make everyone feel good, but there is always a stopping point. Your own health and happiness comes first. Often we feel as though we must make every single person satisfied, but that is not possible. You can't expect to help everyone. Though we can all try to lift each other up together. It is important to look after yourself too - especially if you are not feeling happy - as if you aren't happy, you can't expect to make others happy. In short terms, you stop, when you no longer are happy.

Making others happy gives you pleasure and peace. But before doing that you should figure out your own happiness, making your self happy should be your first priority so that you can feel great inside and out. Helping someone encourages you to do better but you need to be encouraged and joyful before going to help someone. You can't hide all your worries and pretend like you're fine. Self-care should take first place in your list cause it helps with your mental well being and that's more important to this world. Be encouraged, mindful and determined. Sending luck, peace and love. PEACE to you all.

Whenever you decide to. You may feel like you have an obligation to others, to make them happy, even to be happy yourself. But that is just a construct. There is no law that says you have too, no penalty if you don't. You need to do what is best for YOURSELF. Make decisions and do things for you, not others. Focus on your own happiness and in return, you'll probably make others happy without needing to try. And if not, then it doesn't matter. Everyone is responsible for trying to create their own happiness. It's not your responsibility to make them happy.

Though it may be tough to wrap your head around, you do not always need to do things to make people happy. Some people will always be dissatisfied with things you do, and that's okay! What you should really focusing on is doing things that make YOU happy. Your happiness is the only thing you always have control over, and you are not required to make people happy if it's wearing you down or making you unhappy. Sometimes, it may feel like you need to meet everyone's expectations and make sure they're content, and though it's always great to go out of your way to be good to other people, you should always make your own goals and expectations number one.

The answer begins in the question. It seems that you spend most of your time making people happy instead of taking the necessary time for yourself, causing discontent and sadness (if you are making people happy because that is their expectation of you or you are being bullied, then please clarify). Why do always have to make everyone happy (not rhetorical)? Have you thought about why you assume this role and continue to do so despite knowing its effects? If so, what are the reasons? Also, how does it make you feel in the moment? How long does that feeling last before you start to feel unhappy again? There could be a variety of reasons why, and I am not going to pretend to know your life nor your business. If you continue to assume that role, group dynamics suggests you will continue to keep that role until something significant changes; you may be making your friends happy as a function, not as a genuine gesture. Have you mentioned this to any of your friends? Also, have you asked yourself how much of your self worth and identity are tied to being the "nice one"? Performing a perfunctory act for, say, validation, could be manifesting a larger problem with which I am not equipped to deal. Journaling and outlining your feelings when you are alone and every time that you do something "nice" for someone else (more than the who, what, when ... still important), but with the effects, duration, time of subsequent act, etc. it will potentially provide a solid data set to help identify a root cause(s) of the reasons why you focus on the happiness at the expense of your own. Your friends, partner, parents, (a) therapist, etc. are in much better positions to help at this point. If you have been as good to your friends and have made them as happy as you mentioned, leverage them as resources and talk to them about how you are feeling; they should have no problem reciprocating - if not, you have a cause. And if the feelings run deeper, talk to a therapist or counselor in addition to your friends and to whomever else you speak.