What's the best way to deal with family members who disapprove of the parenting decisions you make?
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Updated: Oct 27, 2020
Anonymous
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Nov 17, 2015
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the best thing to do is to try to talk to them a lot of times, if it s not going then you should tell them that is ok that they have their opinion and that you should stay friends
SilentSerenityy
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Jan 4, 2016
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Their opinion is nothing more than that. You can parent your children the way you like, they can't change that but maybe you can listen to what concerns they're raising about your parenting - you might be doing something that isn't right but if it's simply them trying to take control and want things to go one way, then you'll have to ignore them. Communication is usually the answer though.
Anonymous
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Jan 5, 2016
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Understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and some people like to voice theirs more openly than others. The most important thing is that you don't change the way you are for anyone and continue parenting the way you feel is right, just keep doing what feels right.
jadespace
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Feb 1, 2016
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You're the parent and it's your decision. At the end of the day, you're responsible for the child/children.
patientCupcake35
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Jul 18, 2016
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I think the best way is to sit down and talk things through. It's very easy for others to suggest ways for us to do things but we all have to find our own way in life and parenting is no exception. Sometimes the advice is given because people care for us and want to make life easier. Sitting down and explaining how grateful you are to have their input and you'll always take things on board, but that you need to find your own way as a parent, even if that means making a few mistakes along the way. If the disapproval is ongoing, perhaps a level of acceptance is needed to get through the situation.
peachicus
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Oct 24, 2016
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At the end of the day you're the parent and you will do what you think is right for your child, they either respect that or they don't. Best to ignore them if they're not being constructive or supportive in my opinion.
Anonymous
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Oct 25, 2016
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Tell them the time has changed. What might have worked 30 years ago, might not be working now aand again what is working working for you might not work 20 yrs after.
Anonymous
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Nov 7, 2016
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Ignore them. It's your child. No one, and that means absolutely no one knows your child better than you. They don't have to agree with you, they do, however, have to respect you as the parent.
Anonymous
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Dec 12, 2017
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You are the parent and you don't need assurance on what you should do for your kid. All parent bring up their kids differently depending on how they know. Yes we are all not perfect parents and we all make mistakes. But no one knows your kid better than you do. So trust your instincts and do what you know is right.
Anonymous
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Jan 2, 2018
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I tend to acknowledge it with a “thanks for your concern.†You aren’t obligated to engage with them about how you parent your child at all. It’s always worth evaluating yourself, but that’s much different than feeling pressured to succumb to somebody else’s opinion. Best of luck to you!
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