What do you do when you and your parent cannot seem to communicate without arguing?

Hi there. So, I often find myself bickering with one of my parents in good humour and suddenly it escalates into a full-blown screaming match with mostly them screaming and me seething inside. Getting a word out means more trouble. Then they give me the silent treatment in the most un-silent manner. I realised that the trick lies in knowing that you cannot be forced into doing what they approve off and mindlessly letting the rest be. And when it comes down to parental nagging, please remember that indifference is more effective than confrontation. Because, they usually get support from their partner and we're the ones taking the brunt of the situation. I hope I helped. Take care. :)

Usually, what I tend to do when my mother and I get into an argument, is I take time for both of us to cool off, then we sit down and talk about why we argued and what we could to do to fix it.

I will say that spend time with them, communication gap is not a big problem but a common thing now a days. Just spend sometime remembering your childhood, it will help.

I think taking some time out for awhile is a good idea. I know this is harder if your living in the same house. Often writing it all down when your calmer can help.

Take time to listen to your parent(s) point of view and request that they listen to your point of view in a calm manner. Try to avoid saying one another is wrong. Instead try to explain your reason for feeling a certain way about a topic.

Try and avoid situations and conversations where an argument can be started. It is this way with my mother almost constantly, so I just avoid her.

This is a tough situation. If this is something that deals or occurs on a regular basis, then maybe speaking with a counselor or therapist could help you work through your problems and emotions.

take a step back and think about the situation from your parents point of view. ask them if you can all sit down and talk and have a third party there who is netural to stop fighting

i stop for a little and think about it, and then i star all over, i try to understand them and then to talk slowly

You make them both sit down and talk to them about what is going on and how you don't like it and say that you would like them to see a therapist and you will accompany them this way they know they are having problems and hopefully they follow your advice ;) good luck.