What do I do when my husband ignores me?

People always say that communication and compromise are key to any relationship. It is important, if possible, to talk to you husband to express your feelings when you are ready to do so. He might not know how his actions make you feel even if it feels obvious to you. Setting up a time and place to sit down and express these concerns and feelings to him might allow him to better understand where you are coming from. It will also help you better understand why he might be acting the way he is. When we don't communicate with each other, it's hard to see where the other person is coming from and can result in a lot of misunderstandings.

If your husband ignores you, you should talk to him. Communication is very important in relationships, and you should be comfortable talking about that stuff with him. If your husband isn't willing to talk about this with you, then maybe it's time to try to save your relationship. Try to show him that you love him, show him how much he means to you, spend time with him, and most importantly talk to him. If he still ignores you, maybe it's time to get your life sepersted and start thinking about moving on with someone who doesn't ignore you.

As a husband, I think the correct answer depends on the context of the situation. The real question here is "Why" is he ignoring you? Additionally, what exactly are you implying by "ignore"? for example, is he pretending you don't exist? Avoiding conversations? Avoiding intimacy? Is he distracted by technology? Decompressing after work? Are there emotional/mental factors/disorders in play? All of the above? I suppose what I am getting at is he could be ignoring you for any number of reasons. For example, when I am truly ignoring my wife, it's usually because I'm distracted on my phone, escaping an emotional trigger, or retreating into myself to work out a thought or problem. Sometimes I honestly just don't want to talk to anyone, especially after work. I know a reduction in intimacy and libido (if that's what you were getting at) can be caused by low testosterone, which is treatable. Additionally, he could just simply be dealing with depression, which is also treatable. There are a lot of things that could be going on potentially, and that's not even considering if he's unhappy with your relationship. The only real thing you can do is engage him. You're married, so I'm assuming you know what some of his favorite things to do are. Take/fake an interest in those activities. Do them with him. Make his favorite treat. Surprise him with something silly and out of the ordinary. Something like this could loosen him up and spark a conversation about what's really going on, and there's a pretty good chance that having an open line of communication is going to strengthen your bond and relationship. That's literally the whole idea behind couple's therapy. The honest to goodness bottom line is, you just have to get him to open up and communicate with you. It could truly be that nothing's the matter, and on the chance that there is a problem, communicating is your best option to resolving the issue and strengthening your trust and your relationship. Hope that helps!

Thank you for reaching out! I can imagine you feel confused, angry , hurt or upset that your husband is ignoring you. It maybe good to ask yourself what the signs are that he is ignoring you? Ask yourself if there ever was time you would ignore someone and think why? Possibly there is something your husband is going through which he is finding difficult to come to terms with and so he therefore is hesitant to share which can come across like ignoring. Please reflect on your communication style and your husbands in general. How is the communication different? When he is comfortable sharing about what he has went through or is going through he will be open o talk to you. How has your attempt been to talk to him about feeling ignored ? Thinking about a time where you both were in conflict and solved the conflict may be a good way to think through how you are going to approach his thoughts and feelings as well as your own. Organisations geared towards supporting those needing assistance with relationships include: Relate and OneLoveFoundation. You are welcome to communicate with any of our amazing listeners on or site for a 1-1 chat to further explore your thoughts and feelings! :)

I understand how it feels to be ignored by someone especially when someone is your loved one. It's okay to have such feelings. What makes you think that your husband is ignoring you? Have you talked to your husband about how you are feeling bringing what incidents made you felt that way? In this way, you and your husband would be on the same page and you might also find if your husband is going through rough patch. Communication can be really helpful to sort things out. I hope this answer helps you. There are many active listeners on 7 cups, please feel free to reach out, you don't have to go through this alone.

Communication is key to any relationship. Choose a time where he seems to be in his better moods and neither of you are particularly busy and tell him that you need to talk to him, how him ignoring you is making you feel and ask him why he's ignoring you. Speak in a way that he knows you are open to valuing and listening to what he wants to say, regardless of wether you agree or not. Find a way to have a heart to heart. If he still persists on ignoring you, tell him how it is harming your relationship, or just give him his own time. However, value yourself and your feelings first so you dont end up being used or stomped upon—that is only my advice.

Ignore him back or try to talk to him.

Consider the reason why he may be ignoring you, was there an argument recently? Is he battling his own mental health? We must first approach this person to ask directly if they are okay. We also often assume we are being ignored, it is not always our actions which cause this behaviour, therefore we must be open to listening to that person express their current emotions. Maybe they have had a bad day at work, gone through recent grief, reflecting on past actions, etc. Ensure you provide open advice and support for them which is safe and caring and hopeful you'll be able to get your answers. Wish you the best.

I think giving them some space might work. If it's not working; just talk to them about this problem in a non-aggressive way. I remember times when I ignored my partner(3 years ago) it's wasn't about her, I was feeling empty and needed a goal, something to work for in my life. It reflects on our emotions and behaviors. We didn't solve the problem because we were closed to active listening and open communication. The relationship got toxic in multiple aspects and we had to end it. The next time your husband ignores you. Try asking them relevant questions about something they are having a hard time with. Communication is key.

Hi, I hope this message finds you well. This problem is common in many adult marriages, and often a difficult one to deal with. I can’t give you direct advice but what I can di is reassure you and hopefully make you feel better after reading this. The most important thing in a marriage is communication. One of the reasons for your husband ignoring you may be regarding the subject matter you’re talking about, so I recommend you start a normal, neutral conversation, to which he won’t dismiss based on the content of the conversation. During this conversation, I’d recommend discussing with him how you’ve felt recently, and how you feel as a result of his behaviour. The chances are, he had no idea you felt this way, and simply telling him how you feel will make him stop. You can find more advice using the 7cups guides found online. I hope this made you feel better about your problem, thank you for allowing me to answer your question.