What do I do when my husband ignores me?

329 Answers Moderated by Maria Wasielewski, Master of Arts in Counseling and Guidance, University of Arizona Updated: May 11, 2022

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Anonymous on May 28, 2016

When your husband ignores you, no matter if it’s all the time or just after arguments, he is trying to avoid and run away from a problem instead of dealing with it and solving it. Making your husband stop ignoring you is all about communication. The key to getting a man to listen to what you say and open up to you is to understand HIM before you talk about YOU. When you do that (talking about his needs first), you’ll get it back ten times over. He will instantly cater to your needs, without any resistance. 

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Anonymous on Aug 11, 2016

It depends what you do about it now. Men are not much emotional so find way to self soothe you. Get passionate about something to keep busy or call friend. And see how your husband will respond 

D0wn2earth on Aug 11, 2016

Find something better to do. Make your self happy while he's not around. A mans should never ignore a woman. He needs to treat you like his queen. 

JoyfulDreamer13 on Jul 14, 2016

Some people don't realize how much being ignored hurts. Talk to him and tell him it hurts you that he does that and ask him to talk to you and if you don't talk about problems they won't go away.

Anonymous on May 1, 2016

Try and ignore him too or tell him how you feel threaten him you will leave. Be calm and assertive its his loss not yours

ItsAlyssa on Jul 28, 2016

Talk to him and if he ignores you then move on because it means you are more mauture than he is.        

Candid0211 on Apr 12, 2016

If you feel your husband ignores you then try and ask yourself why do you feel so. Chances are if you go deep in the root of why you feel this way, you will also be able to find out the solution on how to address the same. 

Anonymous on Apr 5, 2017

When ignored by my spouse, if the marriage is still somewhat supportive, it is important for me to understand why I'm being ignored?  What was it that I could have done?  Did I have a part to play in becoming shunned by my spouse?  How can I make things right?  Or, if my spouse has ignored me repeatedly, despite attempts to reconcile, it is important to focus on doing the next right thing for your children, your family, and yourself.

Anonymous on Jul 8, 2016

Confront him about it, Express your feelings to him, its the best thing you can do if you want to find a way to solve this.

PoliteOcean on Jun 2, 2016

This can be a very challenging situation. Nobody wants to be ignored or be made to feel like they or being ignored. It can lead to all sorts of feelings within oneself as well as problems with the relationship. If you are in any relationship, one of the biggest things is "Communicating" with each other. Communication is key. You need to be honest with your spouse and how you are feeling. Otherwise they will have no way of knowing how you are truly feeling. If you feel that even after communicating that you are still having issues, it might be best to seek outside help or resources. (Such as counseling, therapy, support groups, or even spiritual guidance) to help you both connect and continue to move forward in communicating better with each other.