My mom and I are the complete opposite. How can I get along with her?

You can't ever change someone's personality, but you can change the way you cope and feel towards your mom. In the end, how you feel dictates how you respond to a situation, although it isn't as black & white as it sounds.

I'd like to share a couple of ideas on this, from my personal perspective. If possible, could you both try to appreciate the differences in each other? An idea that might really be fun and support you with this would be for you and your mom to share a "Mom / Daughter journal". In this journal, you could take turns writing to each other how you feel, or anything at all, even just a small drawing, a poem, or a picture...anything at all. Then you would each take turns after sharing something in the journal by pacing the journal in a space you both feel comfortable with accessing it, and can easily both see it is there again for the other to pick up and enter a new entry and then place it back in the agreed upon space. This way, you could really share, express yourselves, and get to know each other in some new, creative, and hopefully enjoyable ways. You two might discuss not talking about any entries in the journal unless agreed upon, or shared or asked about in the journal first. You two might also both want to agree that the Journal will only be for the two of you to view and share, unless otherwise mutually agreed upon. Hope this helps.

I've learnt that even when we feel different from our parents, it's not that we're different, we are actually the same, but at different stages in life. At one point, my mom was just like me, she felt as if her parents didn't understand her choices and that they couldn't agree. Her mom was the old person who didn't understand what it felt like to be in love or have friendship drama. Her mom was the person she couldn't talk to because she always felt judged. Now the roles have switched and my mom is to me, what her mom was to her and I am feeling exactly how my mom felt about her mom when she was my age. The key to getting along is understanding that there is wisdom in experience. While your mom may come across as harsh or judgmental, she knows quite a lot about being in your position because she was once there. Seek to understand and then to be understood, listen to her point of view and then share yours respectfully, without getting overly emotional about it, you can agree to disagree. But at the end of the day, your mom is the only person in this world who will seek your best interest.

She is your mom. You'll find hard to deal with her as long as she is so different to you but you may not forget that she loves you no matter what. The worst part is when you two bump into each other and just collide in a matter where you ought to have reason. My advice is to calm down and accept the part where she is right and you aren't, and to keep your idea when you think you are right. You need co-existence as long as you two live together so just talk to each other. I've did it and now we get along very well. I kept interested on some of her matters (like sewing or dancing) and she tried to make some interest on my hobbies like painting and singing.

Sometimes there may not be an answer to getting along with a person. Even if its your own parent. You can't change the way another person thinks for feels. However, you can sit with that person and talk with them responsibly if you feel that you are wanting the situation to be better. It's hard to have a personality opposite of another person who is so close to you. But the first thing one can do is talk openly about how they feel in hopes the other will listen. Also there is therapy and counseling if the situation is or becomes worse. Once again you can't make another person change who they are or how they act or re-act, but you can take the first step in talking to them and discussing your feelings about wanting to get along for the better. If they are your parent, hopefully they will in fact want the relationship to be better also, and take the time to listen. But you won't know until you make that move.

Find this thing called "grey area". It's something you two might have in common, or that doesn't bug neither of you. From this grey area, try to find more things that may help you two get along like talking topics and activities to do

Find somethings in common. There will always be at least one thing in common with another person. Make a sincere effort.

The old saying that opposites attract has been belittled saying that every relationship needs to be met with a commonality. While this is true, opposites complete each other. If you and your mom fight a lot, chances are that you are really similar, not necessarily opposites. Try to place yourself in her shoes. Look at the time period she grew up in. Is it about technology? Parents were born into an era without most technology that we have now. That means that sometimes she won't understand why our phones are so important. Likewise, you may not understand the same things she does. Try to keep an open mind! :)

Find some common ground. It may be difficult considering the two of you are very different but it is very important to have a special bond with your mother because she is one of the only people in this world who was there with you from the beginning and will continue to be there for you until the end.

Patience and respect. I have the same problem with my mom, but I find that if I respect her as a person and disagree calmly and politely things go better than when I get frustrated. Also-pick your battles, let her win somethings (especially little nothing arguments) and things will be better for you