My father is having an extramarital affair. Part of me wants to end my relationship with him for cheating on my mom, but i worry that he will be depressed as he loves me a lot. How do I deal with this situation?

It can be hard from your perspective but sometimes just being there to support him and understand why he's having an affair can help. Have you tried speaking with both your parents to see what conflicts may be between them? Sometimes relationships dwindle because they think about how it used to be; what it was like when they first met and they realize how different it is now compared to then. They may just need to remember why they fell in love to begin with and work it through together. Relationships are hard and very complicated. It isn't always so black and white and we do all make mistakes. The first step is admitting the mistakes you've made. I hope this helps :)

You know your situation better than anybody else I personally never experience this myself But, how about to start with thinking of what would you expect from your own kid would do, if you were in you mother or father's shoes. Consider the overcome and the impact on the relationship between you and your father and your entire family Listen to your heart, Do what you thinks is right, Do what always goes in you mind repeatedly, Your heart knows better than your brain sometimes. If necessary, make a note of Pros and Cons, if the result brings your more positivity, then you have nothing to stop you

By being honest. How about talking to your father and actually tell him what's going on in your mind? You might feel overwhelmed by this and you don't know what is the right thing to do, it would be better if you talked about it with him. By showing him how you feel, you are acting mature, you are giving him the chance to talk to you and work out the solution for this together. By telling him how this affects you or how it affects your relationship with him will allow him to think about what he is doing and what he is planning to do next.

That must be very hard for you to cope with. When our loved ones do something which is inappropriate, it's almost impossible for us to know how to react and what to do. Of course you're right about how you're feeling right now but we should always take a decision when we are not deeply affected by some feeling which is triggering and forcing us to make a decision. Let it be any decision. Not just this one. What your dad did has a great impact on your mother and you. For that you can condemn the 'actions' of those who do it. The actions Would have been appropriate/inappropriate but not a human. As if we start condemning people instead of their 'actions' we would also hurt our feelings. Everyone should have a room for growing and learning from their mistakes. You know that he loves you a lot but also you're hurt by his actions in this situation you must give yourself time to take a decision. Yes condemning a person's inappropriate actions is important so that they learn that they did something very unpleasant. :)

This is not an easy situation to handle, however not impossible. The relationship between your father and mother is actually between them. Of course you are a member of this family and it’s totally natural to feel how you feel about the whole situation and your father. Maybe you could try talk to him about that. If he can understand how you feel about this and be honest to your mom, things may be better. Think that how your father and mother communicate with each other is their business. You don’t need to feel worried about the bad decisions of your parents. I hope I’ve helped you. Good luck :)

Have you tried speaking to him, or how would you feel about that possibility, if it is an option? It may be that knowing that you are aware of the situation and how it is causing his child such distress may impact his behaviours. Of course, he might already be aware, or such a discussion may not be possible in your context. Only you can understand the full family dynamics you are dealing with, so in thay respect, you are the world's leading expert on you. What do you think would be the usefulness of this approach in your family?

This sounds like a very painful situation. You must feel conflicted between being loyal to you mom and not abandoning your dad. I can see that you are being very thoughtful of both your parents. What would happen if you sat down with your dad and talked to him about how you feel? I can tell that you really love both your parents. Broken relationships are really hard to deal with. You are doing great by not making quick decisions but trying to consider the consequences of your actions and being careful about what you say to your dad and also to your mom.

Let your father know that your knowledge of his cheating and betrayal has caused you to hurt tremendously. Have a talk with him. Decide for yourself if you are able to forgive him after having that talk with him. He may have been a bad husband to your mother, but he may be a good father still. Also, have a talk with your mother and help her understand you feel hurt by your father as well and would never tolerate his action. let her know that you are not supporting his mistake but just that you still need a father figure in your life, even if he made a mistake.

Those situations are always difficult and painful, I went through the same problems so I get how you feel. I think you should talk with him and tell him how you feel about it, he probably already knows that, but talking makes everything better, if he loves you that much he is probably very sorry about what happened. Ask him what happened, why he did it, how does he feel about it now and also talk about you feelings and your thoughts. They are your parents, he disappointed you, but you don't have to chose between one or anothe, just because one of them made this mistake doesn't mean that all the love and good memories you shared until that moment were nothing.

Clearly, he has betrayed someone who is most dear to you. Your feelings are valid. And you have all the right to refuse seeing him, if you just can't do it. But we all make mistakes. I think you should allow yourself to see your father as a human being with all possible faults. Parents aren't perfect. And your mom isn't either. I would suggest that you take your time but then try to find that place in you where your love for him is and thereby find the strength to see him again. I bet that this wouldn't just be good for his sake but also for yours, even if you cannot see that now.