Is it normal for me to hate my parents?
Anonymous
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Jan 29, 2015
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Well teen mood swings are normal, its a part of growing up, being mad at your parents that is. But if you like Hate Hate them, then that may not be the most normal thing. It depends for how long and how severe you have felt this way.
Dealing with family stress?
Anonymous
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May 5, 2015
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Any way you feel is normal! Your feelings are always valid! Hate is a very strong emotion, and it's very unlikely you'd feel this way without a reason. Many people have hard relationships with their parents. It's important for you to work out the core of this feeling, why you feel such strong negative feelings for them. Have they mistreated you? Have they been abusive? Have they been neglectful? Once you've identified it, put yourself in their shoes. Did they intend to harm you? Did they know they were hurting your feelings? Have you tried to tell them you feel this way? Create an open dialogue and try to be understanding, but in the end if you feel they are bad for your emotional well-being, that's okay, too. You are allowed to care for yourself and be happy.
Anonymous
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Jun 23, 2015
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I personally don't think it is considered "normal" to hate your parents. There is a reason for the hate towards your parents and it's usually not your own fault when something bad has been done to you.
Anonymous
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May 22, 2015
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Yes. It is part of the normal order of growing up. from 13-25 this is more likely to occor then any other time
Zoso67
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Jun 17, 2015
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It is normal to feel strong emotions against anyone whether they are related or not. What's most important is to think and analyze as to why you feel such strong emotions. Maybe a chain of events have led to this state but you haven't had the opportunity to communicate the issue at hand. Communicating your feelings is extremely important whether it is to the parties involved or towards a professional.
Anonymous
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Nov 22, 2017
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i don't know. I hate my whole family. they never understand me and however hard i try its not good enough. quoting my mum: " i am a shallow disappointment" all because i don't read as many books as i used to. think if your parents try to bee good parents than you should forgive them to certain extents.
friendlyPerspective32
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Jan 3, 2017
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I wouldn't say that it's normal or abnormal, but you are not obligated to like your parents. Not all families are the same, and you may be in one that is toxic for you. I would suggest communicating with them about your needs and feelings though if you still want to build a relationship with your parents. Perhaps there was a misunderstanding that you may need to work out with them. Best of luck!
Anonymous
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Mar 15, 2016
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Yes. But let me clarify. Hate is not an excuse to kill them, nor is it a legal defense. But all kids I know have hated their parents at one time or another.
Anonymous
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Nov 24, 2017
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Hey, I'm going through a rough time myself with my parents. IDK what to do? it's kind of frustrating, but what helps me is just running and focusing on things I love to do. In my case, that's working out and studying a lot. It just keeps me busy and away from everything. Hope this helps.
Anonymous
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Sep 1, 2015
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i am not aware of your situation however it is normal to through phases where you hate your parents.
ChaoticGood
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May 17, 2016
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Usually, yes. Many people will hate their parents at some point in their lives. Sometimes trying to talk it out with them can help, so they understand
faithlove1111
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Jun 18, 2018
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I cannot say whether it's normal or abnormal but yes , we all harbour certain resentments towards our parents . More so if they have very strict parenting skills and put on pressure on their children to perform on aspects like socializing , education, sports and so on. It's another story if the parents themselves have emotional baggages. Then their might have cause some emotional scars , abuse :either physical or mental or even both. This could cause the hate that their children feel. Honestly, in most households where the parents practise good mental ,emotional and healthy lifestyles, there is bound to be some dissatisfaction between the parents and their children.
CandyCure
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Nov 2, 2020
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It may not be normal in the sense of frequency and what's broadcasted in society but it is normal to have strong feelings, whether good or bad, towards people. Influential people, like parents, can help create the feelings of anger, hate, insecurity by being bad parents and doing things that they shouldn't have done. Making a kid feel unsafe, unheard and unimportant can be added to the list. Since all emotions are valid, you hating your parents is. No emotion just wakes up and decides to overcome you, so you most likely have a reason for feeling the way you do.
Joshua19844891
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Dec 15, 2020
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It really depends on what weight you place on that word: Hate. Some people use that word loosely and freely- I hate school, I hate so and so at school, I hate my job, I hate my morning commute. Ask yourself, what is the definition of hate? What does it really mean? I think it is normal to feel such strong feelings under condition of abuse. Physical, sexual, and extreme emotional abuse. I would caution that person before they use that word. Look deep into your past and think of what role your parents have played since you were born. Consider everything- the entire big picture. And after you answer to yourself what you believe is the definition of "hate," then you can start on what the word "normal" means.
Anonymous
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Aug 9, 2021
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When we are troubled we often push out our emotions with a magnifying glass outwards to our loved ones - thus often our own parents. And therefore resulting in the emotion of hate towards them. It is not unusual if at some point in your life you hate your parents. However, there are cases whereby they may project a complete violation against you then it is only normal for you to hate them. Which is not unusual as 20% of parents have been called bad therefore identifying potential hate in the child expressing this opinion. So is it normal for you to hate your parents? It is whatever you become of that, if you hate them that is your opinion, if you dont hate them it is also your own opinion. You and your opinion are unique.
SoniyaJonas
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Nov 5, 2024
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It’s actually more common than many people think to experience feelings of anger or resentment toward parents, especially during challenging times. Family dynamics are complex, and many factors can influence our emotions toward those closest to us, including unresolved conflicts, unmet expectations, or differences in values. While these feelings may feel overwhelming or uncomfortable, they don’t necessarily mean you "hate" your parents forever. Often, they’re a sign of deeper issues that might need exploring, like setting boundaries or improving communication. If you're feeling this way, take a moment to explore why. You can find helpful insights in this article on Why Do I Hate My Family? here: https://www.calmsage.com/why-do-i-hate-my-family/.
InsightfulPhoenix
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Feb 19, 2025
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The way you feel is valid, and you are always allowed to express how you are feeling. Anger is meant to be felt, and never suppressed. An depending on the circumstances of the situation it can also be okay to go no contact, or even low contact. Remember that this your boundaries, and mental health. Your boundaries, self respect and awareness should always come first before anyone whom has harmed you. I'm sorry that you are going through this pain currently with your parents.
