I hate my husband or wife. Why?

There can be a numerous amount of reasons as to why! One of the most common is that they end up being a completely different person that you had never expected them to be (or wanted them to be, if you take expectations into consideration). Another is that you don't actually want to spend the rest of your life with them and end up disliking their presence strongly. As for situational factors, it could be a situation that occurred in the past that still lingers in your emotions/mind. Perhaps you may not directly remember it, but its influence is still there!! Hope that gives you an overall idea of what could be going on!!

Have you spoken to him or her about your feelings? When did the feeling of this hatred begin to arise?

Hopefully you don't hate your spouse; if you do seek a marriage counselor! Maybe you feel you have lost the spark of your marriage and it seems you hate your spouse. Try going out on a weekly date, remember the days when you fell in love with your spouse and try to recreate the good times and always remember "FORGIVE" -- no one is perfect; we all make mistakes!

A lot of people feel like this during their marriage, most people go through a rough patch and if you are stressed yourself every little negitive thing is magnified

Be careful when you say hate. If you married this person, then you must have loved them at some point. Try to think of why you dislike your spouse and put yourself in their shoes

Two people after time may start to become distant from when they first both met or became a couple. Not everything works out, you either resolve it or leave it.

Expectation of a ideal partner in every aspect is the desire of every one. We should be ready to accept our spouse with all their misgivings. love, respect and trust is to be worked upon by both to compromise, forgive and build a family of a certain values and principles.

When you are married to someone, having strong feelings towards them (positive or negative) seems normal. One would hope that you could work with them to understand what is hurting you, and your spouse would make reasonable accommodations for you.

Relationships are the most complex things we have as humans. It could stem from a loss of connection which is maintained by having an understanding of how you both communicate. A need not being met by your partner. By doing some exploration into who you are and what you need can give some light to your answer.

Well, if you hate your spouse, you must know why. Is it attrativeness? Is it their debt? Is it that they gossip? Many times it can be a collection of different things all at once. In this case, communication, openness, and willingness is important. Talk to each other, be open to their reactions, and be willing to change yourself or accept them as they are. Hopefully they can reciprocate.