I am adopted and want to find my birth mother, my mom seems very uneasy about my wanting to do this. How can I ease her worries and still ty to do this?
goldenPumpkin55
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Jun 23, 2015
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Talk to her, maybe she's protecting you from a harsh truth, but make it clear that you have every right of knowing.
BubblyDoll
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Jun 29, 2015
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Tell her you need to know where you came from but reassure her a lot by telling her that you love her and that no one can replace her i' your heart.
Anonymous
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Jul 6, 2015
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You could ask her to help you find her, involve her in the whole process. She is probably worried that you might not like what you find.
Chaliercy
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Jul 7, 2015
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Some of the adopted children, when they find their birth mother, leave the foster mother. This may be the concern of your mother. Talk to her may be the best solution in this case.
WoundedHappyHeart
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Jul 21, 2015
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Make sure that she knows that you're not just gonna get up and leave her when you find her. Assure her that you just want to know where you came from.
PoliteOcean
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Sep 7, 2015
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You can talk to her about how you feel. You can let her know how much you love and care for her, while also letting her know its important that you know where you biologically came from. I think once she sees and knows this and hears this, that her feelings about it and her fears will change.
Bulelo
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Jan 5, 2016
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Ask her what makes her uneasy... Is it that she's afraid you'll be disappointed by your findings or that you will in turn abandon her? Talk to her, ease her anxiety!
Anonymous
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Mar 15, 2016
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Perhaps an open discussion about it could help. Finding out what makes her uneasy about it may help you to better understand and the open discussion about it would clarify things for you as well Good luck! :)
Anonymous
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Apr 26, 2016
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You could explain the reasons for wanting to find your birth mum and assure your mother that she will always be your mum
JuliaP31
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Sep 19, 2016
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Try to explain that the love you have for her will never change. Love is infinite, you can always make more when you need it, and just because you might want to give someone else some love, it doesn't mean that you'll take any away from her. Your birth mom is a part of your life, and you want to meet her.
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