How to stop hating your mother?

I have found that reminding myself hating only makes my heart heavier keeps me from having ill will towards anyone. Also doing meditations specifically geared towards mindful forgiveness and compassion has helped me a ton!

I realized that their parents didn’t give them all that they needed. I saw that they were just trying their best and they were human like me, which meant that they had flaws and made mistakes. I saw that they were every bit as lost as most of us are at times, because life has no guidebook. I saw the little child within them. As I started to forgive them, I became warmer toward them and appreciated them more. I started to say “I love you” to them, and surprisingly my dad started to say it back. He had never really said it to me before.

Figure out the reason for why you hate your mother. You can't change who and how your mom is. So, better change yourself to keep yourself happy.. and one thing... never hate anyone.. you aren't going to get anything thinking something bad about someone :)

1) realize that Mom is older than you are and be compassionate towards her 2) know that (while in some families it is not true but more commonly) you are the most important person in her life and while she may not know how to always provide for your needs, you loves you most 3) have a chat with her...and try to iron things out, it might work? 4) be patient and honest with her too 5) manage (your own) expectations and be aware Mom isnt deity and cannot wave any wand and make things magically appear 6) she may not always be around (everyone has a time to 'go') and while she is still alive...cherish her. 7) do not hold it against her. Listing one bad point about her is allowed..WHILE listing 3 other good points. Focus on the 3 good points, and less on the one point. 8) If Mom imposes expectations know that she is human and makes mistakes too (mistakes like...trying to impose). 9) You came to this world with an umbilical cord...and without a manual attached. Mom does not always have the answers..or know the best methods. Forgiving is hard but can be done...and hating can be done for a while but overtime...burns a hole even in yourself too....take care!

Try and see the good in her, maybe look at things from a new perspective. Take a walk in her shoes. Maybe try to find things you have in common, try every day to be nicer to each other, no matter the circumstance. Kindness goes a long way. I understand all of this is a lot easier said than done but all you can do is try your best. Your mother will see the effort your putting in and hopefully put some in herself, at the least she will appreciate that you are trying. I hope this helps, best of luck to you!

This is hard to tell without knowing why you hate her. I would say take these reasons and question them if they are really justified. Let's for example say if she is too strict then even if it might be annoying for you at times it is only cause she wants the best for you. You should try to also make a list of things why you are thankful for you mother, which good things she does for you. Imagine her gone. It might seem chill for a moment but why would you be sad and missing her? We often only value people and things just when it's too late. Prevent that for yourself.

Wow! Hate is a strong word. First I would suggest for you to consider if hate is the correct vocabulary for what you are feeling. We all have mothers. Some of us are luckier than others, however, a mothers job is not to be her child’s best friend. With that said, a mother job is also not to harm or restrict her child from living their best life. In my opinion, and I take my role as a mother seriously, is to guide, coach and teach her child skills needed to navigate with ease in this world of chaos. The great news is, that once you reach adult age, you have a choice. You can choose to live completely independent from your mother. Of course this is not always an easy choice, due to the fact that many adult children rely on their parents financial support until their early twenties. Especially if further education is paid for by the parent. Therefore you may decide to continue to be respectful and bite your tongue during these years. It’s when you have the capability to rely solely on yourself and cut the cords with people who no longer serve your best interest. I am not saying to cut all ties, just to recognize your own power to choose who plays a key role in your life story and who is more of a supporting, background character. I also love the term, keep your friends close and your enemies closer as well as, bless their heart. Always choose love and kindness over revenge. Loving yourself first is revenge that serves both purposes. Best of luck!

By asking yourself first, why do i hate her, try to write these points on a paper. If you feel like all the conflicts between you and her are because you feel that she hates you, then try to make her love you or try to talk to her about how you feel. The best of luck

Remember how once you were so weak and fragile and she cared for you enough to bring u up to this world ...no matter how annoying she must be to you now it will never be as annoying as you were to her once ..regardless of how good a mother is all mothers share the same life changing experience and all mothers struggled a lot with that change...so give her a break because she deserves your love not hate even if it seems like she hates she doesnt...she only hates herself for not feeling good enough try to carry just a little for her and you will be surprised.

by remembering she is the only reason why you are here !! she gave you birth, cause of which today you are able to question something !!