How can I tell my mother in law to back off?

You need to let her know how you feel. You can't just go up to her and tell her to leave you alone, you need to be polite and respectful of it. When you talk to her, I would suggest that you set a time to talk with her very calmly. Make sure that none of you are distracted whatsoever and politely tell her that you don't want her to always be there. That you need to live your own life. Be who you are. I do want to say however that how you say it will affect things.

I would say that depends on what type of person she is. Some people appreciate straightforward and answers. Some people will be very hurt by straightforward answers. You can guess what type of person she is by gaging how she talks to you. If she is very direct and honest, you should be the same way back to her. If she sugarcoats things, you should find a very nice way to hint that you don't want her around all the time. It's important to make decisions rationally, which can be hard when you are in an emotional state of mind.

I think rather than just saying back off in a general sense ( which might be seen as being aggressive) trying setting specific guidelines. Im not sure what the exact issue is but try to make it as specfifc as possible and make it sound more like a person reason why she should do it instead of putting the blame on her (it's not me, its you). That way she will have a harder time playing the victim or talking behind your back. If all else fails ask your partner to speak to their mother directly because they are more likely to go easy on them.

With your mother in law, like any other person in your life-- it's important to set boundaries. If she disrespects those boundaries, a chat of "Hey we're all adults here we need to respect one another" is important. My own late mother in law was a bit intense for my liking...But there were times she was too up in my business and I had to be firm but polite about hey, I can handle this I'm an adult. I think that if she's generally a respectful person toward you, and vice versa, she will listen to what you have to say. Sometimes it's hard but it's entirely possible if both parties are able to communicate.

Gently let her know that whatever the situation at hand you're dealing with is between you and your wife/child/parent/friend/whomever, and that you'd appreciate it if she'd let you take care of it on your own. Just let her know that if you do in any case need her advice - you'd ask for it! Its always good if you can talk to your spouse about the situation first and make sure that your spouse understands how it makes you feel. If possible bring your spouse along when you are going to talk bout it with you mother in law and make sure your spouse understands how important this is to you.

Having an overly expressive mother in law is very common in today's world. Should there not be clear boundaries set at the beginning of your relationship it can be difficult to establish new ones as different behaviours arise. It is important to remember that relationships should be equal and if one side is being particularly negative or not agreeing with your behaviour then there is a "right" way and a "wrong" way to communicate this. Setting clear boundaries is very important about what is and is not acceptable to you. There is nothing wrong with communicating how you feel if you are experiencing negative feelings. In fact, it should be encouraged to communicate effectively and in a timely way with your mother in law when issues may arise. Setting boundaries at the onset of the relationship should be encouraged, however, if this has not been done, it is never too late to establish them so the relationship remains healthy, open and sustainable.

That is a tricky one! Mothers in law can be tricky - they want the best for their child, but they can be overbearing at times for their child's partner. I have an overbearing family myself, and from my own personal experience, being open with them about how their actions have effected me has had... mixed results. Some people, when they genuinely care about you, will work to be better. Some won't if they don't take your worries to heart. It is still worth having the conversation, just so you know where you stand. If you do want to talk to your mother-in-law, there are certain things you need to do. 1) Establish what it is you want to talk about, and what you want to get out of the conservation. Be specific. Do you want her to stop commenting on your job, or ringing all the time? Do you want her to stop undermining you? How, specifically, can this be prevented? 2) Avoid words like 'always' and 'never'. These 'rules' imply an inability to change, and make many defensive. Things like 'I don't appreciate when...', or 'Maybe instead of... we could...' 3) Explain what this conversation means for your relationship. Does this conservation mean you never want to speak to her again? Probably not, in the grand scheme of things. 4) If you feel you need it, make notes! (Not too many, that can be seen as rude.) It might help to keep a track of what you want to say. 5) Ask for support from your partner, if you feel comfortable doing so. I hope this helps, and feel free to talk to me should you need to!

You would definetly have to be kind and compassionate about it. And it 100 percent depends on what you feel she needs to back off on. But Begin the conversation showing where it needs to go with something along the lines of "hey, we really need to talk about (whatever you need to talk about)." even if it gets frustrating you need to make sure you are calm and collected. dont raise your voice to her. Just be sure she knows that you mean buissness too. "Hey, it may be beneficial for the both of us if you were to give me a little bit of space on (what you need space on)" thats my best answer.

You can tell your mother in law to back off in a cordial manner and by having a chat about things. Give her a chance to talk as well. She will be grateful you placed your trust in her to have this conversation. Remember to not make it about you. She needs to feel that hr needs are met as well. Have you ever heard about self-interest. Give her something she likes in exchange for something you may want from her. Self-interest is what we all need to be fulfilled. When someone is kind enough to see our needs we immediately see this person as an ally,

Talk to her patiently and kindly, don't piss her off, as it'll only make the situation worse. Explain to her what's going on and why you want it to stop. Again, say it in a nice way, or it could escalate things drastically. If you want your relationship with her to be better, I highly recommend not pissing her off whilst asking her to back off. Even if you don't care for that relationship, it's still a good idea, so she doesn't do something nasty like spread rumors about you and shit like that. In-laws are like that sometimes.