How can I earn the approval of my parents when I feel like all I do is let them down?
Anonymous
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Jun 16, 2015
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What's more important is whether you're letting down yourself. If you feel like you've done your wry best then that's all they can ask for. Your happiness is more important and will/should be a priority for your parents. Talk to them; this kind of pressure can only affect you negatively.
Nisee96
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May 11, 2015
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You don't have to earn the approval of anybody even your parents. Yes I know we all want I parents approval but we won't always get it what should matter most is your own approval.
greentea12034
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Apr 6, 2020
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You need to know that above all else, your parents love you. Even though you might not think you are the person they want to see, they love everything about you. You could have an honest conversation with them about how you are feeling if you're ready to. More often than not, parents want to have conversations with their children and understand how they are doing. By building a stronger bond with your parents, you will find that your relationship with them is more fulfilling and you won't feel like you're letting them down as much. Open communication is important. Your parents will understand your efforts. Send me a message if you'd like to talk more!
Dave94305
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Jan 11, 2021
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The key is to recognize that other people's judgements of you say more about them than they do about you. The biggest regret dying people have is "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me". Have the courage to remain true to who you are despite others' judgements of you. Even and especially your parents. Although your parents no doubt have your best interests at heart, they might not understand that trying to judge or control is not a healthy way to achieve that. You are enough as you are right now.
DipityEnigma
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Apr 16, 2015
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Parents are very fickle humans. The worst thing that parents can do is to make you feel like you need to earn their approval as this may make you feel like you're never going to be good enough which will effect your life overall within society. The hardest thing I ever did was simply not caring about what anyone in my family thought about me and just carry on my life the way I want it to be. Everyone has such high, unrealistic expectations; everyone's different and has their own image of a perfect life but parents of all people seem to think theirs matters overall, which of course is not how it is. You can either try to earn their approval by doing what they want you to do or take your life into your own hands and do what you want to do, regardless of what anyone else has to say.
PoliteOcean
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Sep 6, 2015
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The best thing you can do is talk with your parents about what you are feeling. It might help to actually have a conversation with them about your feelings and their feelings and what to expect from one another.
LawrenceChamberlain
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Sep 14, 2015
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First, my friend, you should approve of your-self! Reading your query, I thought to my-self, self-esteem is the problem here and not his parents. Without knowing you, I can tell that asking for attention of others is a sure indicator for the lack of self-reliance.
Maybe, your parents are just bad communicators? Maybe, you want them to be discontented? Maybe, they are just bad parents? You will never know for sure. Try to find the approval you so desperately seek in your-self, find comfort in who you are and talk to your parents about your thought, worries and pains.
Anonymous
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Jan 11, 2016
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Start by realizing nobody is perfect. Your parents will still love you. I'm sure when they were kids they made mistakes. Why should you have to perfect when the werent.
Anonymous
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Mar 29, 2016
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Talk to them about how you feel. Maybe they're pressuring you to do better than you're capable of? You're their child and they should be proud of what you can do. Not be let down by stuff that you can't do.
Greatlistener87
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Apr 26, 2016
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You do not need to earn any approval from your parents, as they are your parents and they have already approved you. Ask them if they you are letting them down and listen to what they have to say. The only time you have really let your parents down is when u have given up.
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