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Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 22, 2018
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Yes of course. Getting help can help you get over what happened and sort out your feelings. It is never too late to get help
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Profile: Allears247
Allears247 on Jun 24, 2018
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If you are still suffering from the affects of what ever happened 3 years ago I don't see why not. If it's a current problem for you it shouldn't matter how long ago it was. People bottle up things for way longer than 3 years and depending on what happened 3 years might not be that much time to cope.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 24, 2018
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Of course. You are your own expert and if you feel like you need to process what happened, kudos to you for being brave enough to want to talk about it. I recommend working with a licensed therapist on this.
Profile: sereneHug87
sereneHug87 on Jul 15, 2018
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Yes definitely, When something traumatic happens to you, you have to deal with it/talk about it, even if it is a long time since it happened. Getting help would be the best thing that you could do for yourself.
Profile: Trancer
Trancer on Jul 19, 2018
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Abuse can live with you for life. There is no time limit to seeking redress or help for this problem
Profile: CLMarshal57
CLMarshal57 on Jul 25, 2018
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Hun, you can get help for abuse even if it happened 50 years ago. You can get help even if it did start a few years ago. Heck, I find it quite amazing that you are even considering getting help. I find it even more extraordinary that have recognized that you are acknowledging the abuse. I find it very brave when people take their own health into their own hands and start doing things for themselves. When people know that they should help themselves, I can't even describe how much I look up to them. It sounds simple enough, but so many people don't get help. So yes, you are more than qualified to get help. You can cry, even if it happened a while ago. Because, even though we might believe we are ok, we aren't. We still hear that snide voice as it tells us things that aren't true. You aren't worthless. You aren't ugly. You aren't stupid, nor are you a coward. You, my friend, is an amazing human being. Good luck.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 12, 2018
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Yes because it normal. It’s okay to feel upset about a passed situation no matter how long ago because being upset is just a normal feeling like being happy.
Profile: RJordan0114
RJordan0114 on Aug 19, 2018
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Yes, for certain! Emotional abuse, like any kind of abuse, takes a toll on the survivor, no matter how long it has been or how strong they are. For some people, it may take months or years to realize the impact it has had and to get help in dealing with the emotions and problems it can cause. There is no time limit on the feelings and being upset because of what has happened to you. There is also no time limit on looking for some help from a fellow peer or a professional counselor, it's a very wise idea.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 5, 2018
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Yes, everybody experiences emotional trauma differently. trauma for me was compartmentalized for about 4 years and slowly leaked out. I am just not getting the help I need from the war in Iraq from 4 years ago. I have along way to go. today most people have only reason to tell me why I am wrong and inflicting more emotional trauma into my life. I have no reason to feel bad for a 2 way street. my actions were just and have been just for 3 years now. and today I am having difficulties keeping people cut out of my life and "intrusive thoughts", witch every way you want me to describe it. All I know, things happen for a reason, and third parties make them happen always. one reason I hate therapists and psychologists is because they can never mind their own business. I would rather be left to helping my self.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 2, 2020
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Of course you are! Everyone processes certain experiences at different times and if its takin 3 years, thats totally ok! Reaching out and getting help when you are ready is the only thing that matters. I think it's great that you are even able to open up and talk about what happen. That takes a lot of courage and strength to even get help. Just remember you are totally allowed to feel upset and get help wether it took 3 years or even 10.
Profile: SurviversThrive
SurviversThrive on Nov 14, 2021
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You can be upset at any point of abuse - whether it is at the moment it happens or years later. When experiencing abuse, our idea of freedom and self-entitlement becomes distorted. We can be made to feel undeserving of expressing our pain or even be labelled as overdramatic. Remember, we are always entitled to embrace our emotions and expressing our pain. Abuse is complex and the effects of it can stay with the victim years after it has happened. This is linked to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Repressing this and locking it away leaves us with unhealed trauma. It is definitely worth addressing this and getting professional help.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 30, 2016
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You are entitled to express your emotions over it whenever that happens, and to get support for managing them as well... no deadline for experiencing the effects of emotional abuse... whenevever you feel ready to start dealing with it, is the right time. Trust the process.
Profile: complexdesign1
complexdesign1 on Aug 1, 2016
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You are totally allowed to feel upset about and seek help for an incident that occurred some time ago. For people who go through abuse it is not abnormal for them to be confused or lost with how to feel and respond which means it can take time to re-orientate one's self.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 3, 2016
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Of course you are allowed to be upset no matter what you do it will still be in your Mind however , if you want to deal with the upset have you tried counselling? They could help with strageties to cope with the situation you are grieving over
Profile: delightfulHeart20
delightfulHeart20 on Aug 4, 2016
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yes! emotional abuse can leave a scar on you for a long time. it might shock you at first, but with time it will give you pain. get Help and support! people got to the therapist in times because of something that happened in there childhood.
Profile: carefreeNarwhal88
carefreeNarwhal88 on Aug 7, 2016
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Yeah, also it's ok to be sad and emotional, what you went through is not easy and horrible, you must have gotten hurt
Profile: AuntieGinger
AuntieGinger on Aug 10, 2016
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Yes. There is no time like the present to start healing.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 10, 2016
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Of course you are allowed... There are people out there who have been abused badly years ago, and have gotten help in their adult years.. Honestly it is better to get help as soon as possible because that hidden anger or sorrow won't go away on it's own and from experience...I've seen abused victims who didn't get help and they carry around such anger with them each day...But each day it just eats at them more and more...Pain doesn't just go away and the best thing you can do for yourself is to get help when you sense there is a problem. Good for you for getting help!
Profile: TranquilLavenderFields
TranquilLavenderFields on Aug 11, 2016
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I believe so. We are all individual and therefore heal/grieve at different paces. It would be highly beneficial for you. Well done in taking this step.
Profile: negiducky
negiducky on Aug 25, 2016
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An emotional response in any form to any event, whether immediate or delayed, good or bad is completely human. The presence of any pyschosocial and environmental factors and triggers still do not change the first fact.
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