Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?

Yes, you are allow to start getting help for emotional abuse and should be proud of yourself for having the courage to seek out help. I have endure emotional abuse for over seven years of my life with someone that lived with my family. you have nothing to be ashamed of it and honestly is emotionally intelligent to do so. I was not able to admitted to have been a victim of this type of abuse. You can be an inspiration for other (if you are comfortable with being an advocate) and taking away the power from the person that subjected you to this abuse.

Indeed, you are not "allowed" but instead you have a right to to do it. People have lived with traumas for many years before seeking help or justice. Depending on your country legislation, legally there is a limit but there is no limit in trying to get help from people, from friends, or counsellors etc. If you have not yet made peace with that issue you can always search for help, there is no limit in years, just try to seek help again and again with others or yourself. It is helpful to "forget" but the human mind does not have buttons or switches to do that at a single "press", so it takes time for people to make peace with their traumas.

Of course you are. Each person is different and reacts differently to situations. Your life is your own and no one has the right to tell you when and how you deal with anything you go through. You may not of been ready to talk about the abuse or ask for help or even acknowledge it, that is perfectly OK, you go at your own speed and what feels right to you. You have every right to feel all the emotions, the anger, the sadness, the numbness, you have experienced a trauma and it is absolutely understandable to feel all of this, regardless how long ago it happened

Of course. your feelings are valid no matter how late you experience them. It’s never too late to seek help, no matter what the issue is. You’re emotions matter. I even encourage you to find a listener, and if you feel up to it, I could be that listener. and if not, I can definitely supply you with sources. (i.e.: hotlines, chatrooms, therapists in your area, and psychiatrists I know). and I’m terribly sorry for your situation, even if it was quite a time ago. Good luck, you’re worth it and i’m proud of you for even considering reaching out.

Of course! There isn't a time limit on when you are or aren't allowed to get help. There isn't an expiration date on feelings or emotions. You are allowed to feel what you feel, when you feel it. Recovery from emotional abuse is a huge mountain to climb, so it doesn't matter if you start climbing it as soon as it happens, or 3 years after. You are allowed to climb it, and you are allowed to get help to climb it. You can do this, we all know you can. You are absolutely allowed to start being upset, and get emotional help whenever you need it, for however long you need it.

Absolutely! Regardless of how much time has passed from a difficult situation, if you haven't yet had the chance to grieve and work through your feelings properly, then the pain might feel as fresh and real as if the harmful event happened yesterday. With this in mind, still having the desire to address it and to heal is a powerful indicator that you are willing to work through your suffering. It's genuinely never too late to start seeking the help you need to help you move towards a happier place in life. Especially because you never know what amazing things you might learn along the way!

Absolutely yes. Emotional abuse can cause severe traumas, and trauma healing needs its time, and the path your head needs to follow is sacred, no one should make you feel not allowed to validate your feelings. The road to recovery could start with days, months or even years of denial and/or emotional detachment from what happened. Probably, until now, those events and the feelings were too painful to be remembered and re-lived entirely, so the trauma processing, the upsetting and everything, didn't even start. Now, after 3 years, it's "safer" and more bearable to remember and process the emotions, and they're pouring out. It's really common, believe me, totally normal amongst abuse survivors. It took me 5 years to understand that I was abused, and it was pretty evident, but I was in complete denial. That doesn't mean that pain was not there or that it's not allowed now, since it's late. You can't schedule appointments with your emotions, sadly, and they come when they have to. No point in trying to dismiss them or scold them because they're late. They probably followed the path that they thought best for you. It's never too late to start looking for help, and you're definitely welcome to :)

You're allowed to feel whatever you feel when you feel it. No one has ownership over our feelings except us. In a way, feelings are like sneezes. They happen. It's foolish to try to control the feeling itself. It's what we do with them, our awareness and acceptance, how we cope and grow, that is what matters. Of course you are allowed to be upset. You're allowed to be okay sometimes too. You're allowed to be all over the place emotionally. And it's ok that it's not ok. You're not alone. 7cups has a great trauma community. Check it out if you want and share your story safely. (: Love yourself and be well, even if that means not being well from time to time.

Yes you are the right belongs to you. I hope you feel better within time. Everybody should be able to show how they feel and it doesn't matter how long ago the event was. I have sympathy for you and I pray that you get better and overcome life's obstacle. You are a champion, an overachiever, and I believe in you. I know you can make it through this tough time right know. You are so strong and its okay to let go of your anger everybody needs to eventually Stay strong, hope for the best and lastly forgive everybody.

No matter if it is an incident of past, if anything is still disturbing you, it is all the more reason to acknowledge it and come out of it . It is always is always the right time to get any sort of help. Sometimes we are not mature enough to understand or aware of the resources from where to seek help or scared with emotions of fear, embarrassment, etc and we may choose to try to ignore the incident Deeply buried unpleasant incidents, if not addressed properly, can lead to various psychosomatic issues which we are even not aware of consciously.