Am I allowed to start being upset and getting help for emotional abuse 3 years after it happened?

There is no time span to get help. None. If you need to talk to someone we all are here or we have therapist inline, or you can find one near you. It is never too late to be upset or to get help. Sometimes we just want to forget any abuse that has happened to us, so we bottle it up and push it aside. We dont want anyone t know, until we cant hold it in anymore. We feel like we are about to explode with emotions and evrything is going to come out, the anger, the sadness, the confussion...and thats okay, everyone has their times when they are ready, some talk the day of, the day after, months later, or years later...and that is okay. Some people dont understand what it is when it is happening, but when you learn more about the abuse, you realize that it happened to you and now you are upset, and its okay if you are. Its okay to be upset for a while, its okay to have an emotional scar from it. Its okay to be upset and get help later than what people ¨expect¨. Sometimes we take longer to show how we feel, and that is more than okay.

Of course you are! It just happens to be the time you want to deal with it and talk to someone about it or just do something about it. You always have the right to be upset.

Of course you are allowed! not only are you allowed but you are encouraged to get support and help for your emotional abuse regardless of how long ago it took place

You are most definitely allowed to seek help for emotional abuse at any time. The duration of the abuse or the time since is not important. What is important is that you get the help and support you need to be able to move on in your life. Addressing emotional abuse, or any kind of abuse will be difficult and painful, but there is no better time than the present. The longer you wait and hold onto it, the more damage you will continually endure. Seeking help is a great first step to becoming freed from your past traumas.

I would rather say that you HAVE the RIGHT to get upset. We are humans after all, and getting upset won't make you a bad person, on the contrary you're expressing yourself, and it's natural. You don't need anyone to allow you to feel anything. You're free to feel and no one has the right to control how you're feeling. Start first by understanding the situation and identifying your feelings regarding the impact caused by this emotional abuse. 3 years is quite long, and long enough to affect you. Second, consider reading about your condition and focus on your goal which is to move on and heal. It may require a lot of time and efforts to rebuild yourself, but it's worth trying hard.

Of course. It is very common for people to not begin to feel reactions to abuse until many years later--sometimes even decades later-- because many of us block out and/or disassociate as a survival mechanism during the abuse. Because of this, it is also common to not be ready to ask for or receive help right away. Healing needs to take place in your own time, and will "work" only when you are ready to ask for help, to trust the person you are asking to respect your vulnerability, and when you're ready to put in the work that it takes to heal. It isn't easy, but it's never too late to ask for help, and it's never too late to heal.

There is no time limit on hurt, and you are allowed to feel whatever you are feeling whenever you feel it. Getting help to cope with the aftermath of emotional abuse is a healthy, productive and wise way to start to move forward. You don’t want to be stuck in feelings from the past. Remember, there is never a time limit on pain, and only you get to decide what you feel. Emotional abuse can leave scars that last a lifetime, unless we take positive steps to heal. Give yourself permission to be upset, grieve, reach out for help, or whatever else you need to do to move forward in your life.

Yes! Abuse can hurt for a while. And the healing process can start when ever. If you have the feeling that you need help or if you are still hurting then the feeling is still valid. No matter if it happened yesterday or 20 years ago. I think that reaching out for help would be a really good idea. It can help a lot.

You are absolutely "allowed" to identify the issues and emotional injuries caused by abuse you suffered many years after the fact. Sometimes it takes a while for us to move past denial's protective layers to a point where we can see the parts that need to be repaired. We need to own that healing process. While the abuser may not understand why it's still bothering you, if they care for you in a meaningful way, they will still see the value in your dealing with your hurt, whenever it is that it needs to happen. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

Of course! Everyone experiences things very differently: some of us are able to tackle a crisis and its side effects head-on, while some lock it away to not deal with it, to move on. Both are equally valid, but it is important to that if you start being upset later on, it does not take away your right to deal with emotion. In fact, it is probably the case that help is even more necessary. I myself used to bottle things up a lot, but letting things out, allowing the people around me to know they have caused me pain, felt good regardless of whether it was five minutes after arguments, or a few months afterwards.