why do I want to self-harm if I've never done it before?

Because somewhere you hate or blame yourself for somethings going wrong. When you start to compare yourself with others, that the one they do why you can't. It's just you are angry to yourself not being good or successful like others. But you should always remember that you are one of a kind, there is a good In you, find it, nourish it and shine. I know you can, and you know that too

I never used to self harm until I got in a relationship with someone who was afraid of outward acts of violence. I started self-harming because at the time I told myself it would be better since I wouldn't scare my wife. It can be a curiosity or it can be a form of unaddressed need for anger management.

Sometimes we see images of others self harming and we think it's a valid coping mechanism. Other times we just hurt emotionally and feel like physical pain is a better thing to feel than having to accept our emotions. Both are difficult choices and don't always ease the pain we have in our hearts or minds, but physical pain distracts us. Keep that sentence in mind. Physical pain is a distraction. Also keep in mind, there are a thousand other ways to distract yourself too. Sports, art, music, talking with a friend, a good movie. When you feel like self harming, consider other ways you might distract yourself from distress first.

There's always a first time for everything. Just because you've never done it before doesn't mean you can't feel like doing it at some point. Maybe you've reached your limits and so that desire appears. But it is never the solution, and so you should search for help.

Sometimes if our feelings are so overwhelming (think feelings such as hurt, depression, scared, etc.) we want to "check out" through self-harm. I'm assuming that this is the case for you, as there are a number of reasons why an individual would want to self-harm. I would recommend to talk with a safe individual about it and figure out what is going on for you, as it's a red flag.

You may want to self harm even though you never did it before because it helps you cope, relives the stress or tension that was hold in you too.

As someone who can remember the first time, the reason I wanted to was that I was struggling with my emotions and hadn't tried self-harm as an outlet before. As I struggled with my emotions more and more, I looked for anything that could help me feel better, thus I turned to self-harm. It wasn't my best idea as I soon became addicted to it and turned to it for any inconvenience in my life. However, after 3 years, I learned that it was not the best and that there were other outlets I could use such as art or just retouching with friends. If there is one word of advice I could give it would be to not start self-harming. I know it's challenging and that's okay. But if you've never experienced but feel like you want to or even just have urges to relapse, don't do it. I promise you, things will get better and try something else, something that will help you grow from your situation. You got this.

it's called relapse. sometimes you want to hurt yourself in order of feeling relieved. it happens, do not worry. relapse is part of recovery

Many people feel as if pain on the outside will relive pain on the inside. This is an entirely incorrect theory, but it also doesn't help that people, especially teenagers and young adults, always hear about how people do it to relive pain, and we start to believe that it is true. It also has a lot to do with the common scientific belief that pain releases endorphins, which numbs pain. While this is true of physical pain, it will NOT numb any kind of pain that you feel in your mind and heart.

a factor of life issues or personal feelings may be this conduct. the idea may be appealing to those who generally feel something wrong ongoing or arising.