Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?

Getting over relationships in the past can be very difficult. Thinking of them is very common. If anyone's had good times with their ex-partner, those are good memories. Our brain keeps the stuff that we use. Like if you think about your ex-partner, the brain thinks it is important and doesn't remove remove it. Your brain thinks that it is important stuff and hence it is reflected back to you when you wake up. The brain keeps the memories which are frequently used. Another reason could be that you still care for them. Though they are your ex-partner now, you still have a feeling of affection or care for them.

In our life we meet many people then fall in love with some seems to be special but he or she turns out to be your biggest mistake. You sometimes never end up thinking about them beacuse they were not really bad its just by the time situation and expectation changes. Some times we set a version of people on first interaction and fall in love but when we get to know about there worst part that we ignored before we just lost our interest and give up. Giving up or ending up Relationship by words never ends it. You still sometime wake up and start to think about your ex. The only thing that can help u with this , you just have to take that person out not only from life but also from heart and mind.

Because it’s hard to reprogram your thinking! Healing isn’t linear, don’t beat yourself up or you have a bad day. Being mindful of our conscious thoughts and how they affect our behavior is super important. It takes some discipline and implementing it can take time but it’s absolutely possible! Is there something about that relationship you still feel effected by or attached to? Maybe you could share a little about that so we can get to the bottom of the real underlying issues that are keeping you in this negative space or in the past. What is something else you enjoy doing or anything would like to pursue that would help divert your attention onto something more productive and fulfilling?

Because you still have emotion to process about your relationship. Feel it, write about it, process it. It is on your mind unconsciously so your mind is giving you a reminder to process this emotion. Going through a breakup, often it is easy to find that you are distracting yourself and preventing you from experiencing the negative emotions. You may be numbing which is quite common. I know personally I have done this after a relationship of 13 years break down. You just have to allow yourself to heal, cry your tears out, get angry, feel the emotion. Then you will find once you do, you will think less and less about your ex. It is just part of normal healing.

When you truly love someone it is hard to let them go. Especially if they took up a big space in your life, you have to find a way/other things to fill that space which will take time. It is important to grieve. In the morning/right after you wake up, you are in a vulnerable place. You have a clean slate. It makes sense to be hit with your reality as you reflect on your day. If you slept in the same bed as your ex often, it makes sense to feel that absence in the morning - even weeks/a few months after the break up. If the break up was a surprise/you were dumped it can add to the difficulty of moving on.

When the person was not yet your ex, you still woke up thinking about them..even though your concious mind let go of them or trying to do so, it may not be the case with your subconscious..I went through a breakup, a hard one..after 5 months I still has dreams in the nighttime..and I just can't push back all the feelings I have for him even though I'm sure that he doesn't deserve any of it..but to all the people who has this problem, believe it that one day everything's going to be fine..you will get back those tiny parts of the real you..it just takes time which varies for every person out there..but it will be okay

May be its because you still want him/her back in your life and you are not get over them. Whenever you want them back just remember that disrespect, or how toxic your relationship was. Its normal to want them when they have done something wrong with you. But do not disturb your peace or your life because of them. It will take time but don't worry things will get better with time. And always remember self love comes first. So love yourself and try to wake up with your dreams and the people who really cares about you. Love

Maybe you miss the way it felt when you were with them or the way it feels to have someone to rely on. You might want to feel that way again or maybe you just simply miss them or the person you were with them. Despite the fact that the relationship itself didn’t work out, you still invested time, energy and your emotions into the relationship. That can’t be easy to get over or forget. Hopefully in time you’ll get over them and you wouldn’t wake up thinking about them. In the meantime I think it’s important to go easy on yourself and recognize that your recovering from something painful.

I wish I could say I only think about her when I'm waking up... How about I was with her for 5 years. I woke up next to her for 5 years. She was my first thought everyday then and she continues to be to this day. We have been broken up for almost a year and a half and I have seen other women since, and nothing. I think it rests in the wake (pun intended) of my changing and she was the catalyst for those changes and now I have changed and I burned all my bridges before I had the chance to be this Mike. It sucks. It really sucks. I constantly think that I would do anything to be this Mike and go back in time and be with her, but unfortunately for that relationship and me that is not a reality. In my experience, this question is laced with negative connotation, instead accept and embrace and upon doing that I have found that I have a chance to live a life about me v. obsess about we.

I used to wake up thinking of my ex because I blamed myself for a long time for the relationship not working. I would wake up thinking of them longer than I would have wanted, especially when I had to acknowledge that their rejection affected me so much. It took even longer for me to recognize that my own issues to with low self-esteem made it feel more painful than previous situations. Now when it does happen, I try to reflect on what it is that I'm actually missing, even if it's just for all the things I was hopeful to have. And I remind myself I can still have those things. Now when I wake up thinking of my ex, I recognize that I don't feel triggered by it like before, and that all the work I've been doing on self-care was worth it. Even if for others a year seems like a long time to get over someone - it's a year worth of work that I committed to do for myself.